I "hung out" with a girl years ago, we were good friends. I left the area, and we have all grown, as we do. Before i left, she told me she was pregnant, she was 15 yr old, but was in a steady relationship. They married eventually, she had a baby boy. I have gone on to have children, my son served in Iraq, was nearly killed, is suffering ptsd. I have just found out, my old friends son (the baby she had at 15) has been killed in Iraq. i feel so gutted, time has gone by, but i feel terrible, so sad. Please cheer me up, i am tearful. How can i cheer up?
2006-12-31 06:49:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Something that would probably be very therapeutic (and therefore cheer you up) would be to write your old friend (the one who lost her son in Iraq) a letter expressing how you feel. You don't even have to send it...just get your thoughts down on paper. I find this to be very helpful when I'm sad about something.
2006-12-31 06:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Hi Shalama, just imagine how that Friend is feeling too,give her a Call or Write letting her know that you are thinking about her and that if she is near to where you live perhaps go and see her.
You are probably feeling Low because your Son was injured in Iraq, I do hope he is getting all the help he needs and you to also need some help I think,it must be terrible for you both and now with your Freind losing her Son it isn't getting any better for you at this moment.
Take care of yourself and best wishes to your Son, I hope he will be feeling better soon...it must be hard for him.
Hope 2007 brings you both Happiness and Luck.
2006-12-31 10:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't that so demonstrate the futility of war? Your old friend and husband's life wrecked, their son's life cut off prematurely, your son left with mental problems.
You're quite entitled to feel miserable and justified in grieving for the poor lad and his parents. You're bound to relate to them because of your son's experience. It might be an idea to write your feelings down in a journal. That sometimes helps a bit.
It's not compulsory to feel joyful just because it's New Year. I feel sad about this too. Your words have put across how peoples' lives are being affected with much more impact than reading a newspaper report.
When the break is over and you get back into the routine, hopefully sadness will stop dominating your thoughts quite so much.
2006-12-31 07:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by toaster 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your news, and that your friend's son has been killed. I am proud of our troops, but really hate the fact that we are losing some of our best boys over there.
At this time, I don't think there is a way to "cheer up." Just hold your kids dear and let your own son know how much you love him and support him.
I wish you and your family the very best.
2006-12-31 09:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by KristenOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything I can say to make you feel better - you, and your friend, have both been through such hard things that I would never be able to understand.
Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of both of you, and sending you all, and your families, best wishes. I'm sorry to hear about your friends son. And I hope your son makes a full and speedy recovery.
Sometimes the only way out of the painful times, is through. Your feelings are very valid, and you must be hurting. Recognise the pain, and accept it.
Look after yourself, and be good to yourself.
Take care xx
2006-12-31 06:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
tears and pain must flow freely before you can begin the healing process-you must go through the healing process-call your girlfriend-let her cry,let her remember,then let her know the pain and guilt you feel-how sorry you are and how bad you feel over what you have missed-this will help the both of you-embrace your sadness and run with it-know you friend's son was a wonderful human being and left this earth trying and fighting to make the earth a better place-i speak as a mother whom also lost her son-peace be with you and your friend
2006-12-31 06:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by raven 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you know where she lives? Get in touch & give her some support, I'm sure she would be glad to hear from you.I'm sorry your son is also suffering but I'm sure you and this woman would be a great comfort to each other. Good luck & I hope the new year is a bettter year for you & your family.
2006-12-31 06:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Pama 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Greiving takes time when your child is hurt and a friend's child is killed. Give it time and let it out. A grief counsellor would be more able to help you with your sadness and help you understand and how to help your son with post traumatic stress syndrome.
2006-12-31 06:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can not assist her son at this time but she may really need to hear from you. She should still be your friend and that friendship may be what she needs at this time. Your heart is hurting for her because you care for her. This may do both of you some good. I personally like to read the book of Hebrews at times when I need to be cheered up. GOD has a way of bringing hope to those who are hopeless at times when they really need it. Lean on HIM. If you are able to do so, go to an evening church service. Our preacher certainly cheers me up when I am tired from the daily ruts. Our GOD is the ONE to HEAR!!
Eds
2006-12-31 06:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Eds 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
As your son he was there to serve his country. We don't always agree with where they send our troops but we should always support them and remember the ones who have given the most precious gift to our country. You can check with support groups on how to contact your friend with your support to her. Good luck and have faith.
2006-12-31 09:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋