Do I have the right to get mad at my husband when he said his gonna run me over?

Question

I work at a night shift and didnt get any sleep because he had to do something for his mom to return something. I waited lunch until early evening and he has not come back, not even a text message. When he arrived (after 5 hours) I told him to atleast tell me what was happening because I had to wait and take care of the kids and was awake the whole time(he was asked to stay at his parents place for awhile). I don't want to be selfish here, but I told him to atleast be considerate and inform me. He got pissed and told me that if I'm gonna do that again his gonna run me over by a car. I got totally pissed and told him that even how low he thinks of me he doesn't have any right to say that to me. Am I overeacting here or did I do the right thing.

Answer 1

I think you have the right to be mad at him. He was acting immature and threatened you - it was better to react and say something in response to that so that he knows you do not stand for being talked to in that way.

Answer 2

You had all the right in the world to tell him that plus more. He's not very considerate to you considering you are out working to help with finances and obviously you need to get your rest sometime. I mean it's fine to help your parents out but at the same time he had to know you had to stay awake to care for the kids and you'd think his parents would have considered that as well instead of having him stay there wasting time when he could have gotten back home so you could sleep. Plus a phone call wouldn't have hurt him.

Answer 3

Some guys have a tendency to bottle up all kinds of issues inside and when they get upset, they can explode with cruel words. Nevertheless, he should have some kind of respect for you. His words may be only words of anger, but they are extremely harsh and should be taken seriously. Your hurt and concerns are valid. Please talk to him about it when you two are level-headed and calm. Sometimes, people will only say things when they're upset, but won't go through with the actions. Then, again, because I don't know him like you do, you be the judge.

Answer 4

First off, why are you asking if you have the "right" to feel any particular emotion? Why would you think you did not?

Are you JUSTIFIED in being angry? I'd say absolutely. I believe it would be in your and the kids' best interest to pursue a life separate from a man who would threaten to kill you.

If not for yourself, for your kids. Dont' think they don't feel the tension and animosity between you two. Get away while you are all still healthy.

Answer 5

Hopefully he was just ticked off and doesnt mean what he said. I wouldn t turn my back on him for now. Should he again make the same threat to you, I would consider letting somone know he has said this so just in case something does happen.

Answer 6

Well, you reacted . . I think most of us would have.

The fact is he did commit assult by threatening it. The quesiton is do you want to press charges.

I would discuss with him how the threat made you feel. He is your husband. Try to get him to act like it by opening your heart and see if he'll begin to care.

I wish you both peace & love in the new year.

Answer 7

You had every right to get mad. Don't let him treat you like that. It sounds like he's the selfish one. He needs to be more considerate and not disrespect you. He is obviously putting his and his parents needs before you and your family.

Answer 8

he's being inconsiderate then when you called him on it he got mean. He is wrong do not for a second think that you should tolerate his childish behavior.

Answer 9

You need to dump your loser husband and file for a divorce! You deserve better!

Answer 10

Sounds like you already have issues, verbal abuse, low self esteem, does he physically abuse you?
Seek counseling, get away...life is to short to have someone treat you like crap.