K...I am 14 have a boyfriend and i really love him and i am thinking about coming out of the closet....i think my family would accept it seeingas though both of my aunts have gay guy friends and my mom does and my sister....but i am just not tottally sure if i should...i want to and need some advice...Help please
2006-12-31 06:39:36 · 18 answers · asked by mister_flip_flops_is_gay 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
go ahead and get it over with so you don't worry about it
2006-12-31 06:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by sara69251 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you are completely sure that you are gay. 14 is a little young to be coming out of the closet. If I were you, I would wait until you are at least into your late teens. I didn't come out until I was 20, but that was me. If you are positive that you are gay, then by all means "come out!"
2006-12-31 14:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are gay right? So it is really a matter of WHEN should you come out. You are going to eventually. You should just tell your family that you have to tell them something important and tell them straight out. Explain how you feel and if your guess is right, they should be able to accept that. It might come as a shock, so try to be as understanding about their questions as you want them to be with you. Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-31 14:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Breein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI.THE ONLY ADVICE I CAN GIVE AND I HOPE ITS OK. FIRSTLY IF YOUR PARENTS ARE OPEN TO THIS SORT OF THING THEN TELL THEM. THE LONGER YOU KEEP IT BACK AND THINK ABOUT IT THE WORSE IT FEELS. IVE COME OUT THE CLOSET ABOUT MY TRAN SEXUALITY TO SOME CLOSE FRIENDS OF THE FAMILY AND THE SUPPORT IS GREAT AND MY BEST FRIEND IS ALSO GREAT. A FEW OF MY FRIENDS HAVE SOME IDEA BUT I'M NOT SA YIN. TELL THEM THEY MIGHT BE ANGRY AT FIRST AND SHOUT BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY I'M SHORE THEY WILL STILL LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE THEIR SON
2006-12-31 17:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by xx or xy¿Ø↔♀♂♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family may look at it differently if it was someone in the family, but at least their minds are open enough to accept gays. Tell one person first to gage the reaction, then the rest
2006-12-31 15:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always come out, you can't always guess some ones reaction to your doing so. Friends are different than a family member. You might want to contact http://www.pflag.org/ they are good people with a lot of good info...Good Luck
2006-12-31 16:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dusenberg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have it a lot easier than many of us did when we came out. Just tell them that you are gay. If they accept you then nothing will change and if they don't then you are just going to have to persevere like so many others do.
2006-12-31 17:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it..if you do it at a younger age it gives your family more time to adjust to it as you get older. Also its just something you dont have to stress about anymore once its over and done with.
2006-12-31 15:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by W.E.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your 14 oyu can't be positive that your gay. Wait until your a bit older and when you know you're gay, oyu can tell them. Don't be afraid.
2006-12-31 15:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by You're My Wonderwall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i came out when i was 14,and at first i made a joke to see what they would do. afterall of that isaid i was just playin. but i got arond to tell them the truth they where cool with it. but i lovemy friends that had my back. remember gays tast the rainbow
2006-12-31 14:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by Josie__x 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 14, Im sure you are not certain yet....give it a couple more years before you place yourself in a closet.
2006-12-31 14:43:18 · answer #11 · answered by PoliticallyIncorrect 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋