im 14 and am wondering if i can change t living with my father instead of mother 7 yrs after divorce?

Question

my parents divorced about 7 years ago i was 7 or 8 i am now 14 my mother got e and my two older sisters is there any right that says me as a child can choose to switch households there is no abuse going on it is just that i dont like my school my mother annoys me and my sister gets violent at times and i love my dad so much and want to live with him in ohio, i live in wayne county, michigan or a sight so i can show my parents im serious??

alot of people said talk to my mother and i did but she didnt care

Answer 1

Are you sure your dad is prepared to raise a teenager? Does he have the room? Doe he have a job that he doesn't have to work late nights? If so, talk to your mom and your dad. Hopefully they can work this out between them. The court will have to get involved due to child support issues, changes in custodial parent issues, etc.

If mom will not willingly agree to this, your dad can petition the court. At the age of 14 the judge will take into consideration what your wishes are.


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Answer 2

Since there is no abuse involved, I guess you just don't like your living situation and maybe your mother's household rules. If your sister is physically violent, I suggest you have a face to face discussion with your mother about this issue. If your mother doesn't want to discuss it, or dismisses your complaint, then call your dad and talk to him about your feelings. He may not be in a position to have you live with him. The only way you are going to deal with this situation is to bring it right out into the open and talk about it - as I said, first with your mother, and if that doesn't work, talk to your father, and leave it to both your parents to sort it out.

Answer 3

Your parents would need to go back to court and the judge would ask you who do you want to live with and why. The judge would take your wishes into consideration but it would not be the sole reason for his decision. 14 is a tough age you are not a child but not an adult either. Your job is to grow up and your parents job is to make sure that you don't grow up too fast. That situation alone is a reason that most fights happen between teens and parents. Talk to them and see how they can help in this situation.

Answer 4

If you are 14 your mother is suppposed to annoy you... having said that....you are of the age concent, meaning you are free to decide who you live with...so...it is absolutely up to you provided your dad is a suitable parent....
Keep in mind, if you seee him infrequently, he is going to be easier to get along with, he does not have to deal with the day to day, I am a divorced mom of 2 kids and although they never did go with their dad to live, I am sure there were times they wanted to, consider many things before yo make this choice, but you legally have the choice. Good luck to you, I know it doesnt' seem like it now but this will all be behind you someday and your life will be much easier...
Your moms life isn't too easy right now. She is a single parent, basically, and, it is hard to raise two children. I am not saying that you are to blame in any way for her problems in life, you are not, but jsut try to understand the issues she has right now, it isn't exactly a joy ride for her either.....

Answer 5

Most states will recognize your wish at 14. You however need to talk to both of your parents. If things are not good with your mom and your sisters leaving your home won't neccesarily make things better between you and them.
I don't know any 14 yr.old that does'nt find their parents annoying and as for sisters/brothers???

Can your father take on the role of the custodial parent?
Is he willing to petition for change of custody?

Answer 6

Hi!!! I live in Michigan to. Honey, I believe that in the state of Michigan you can choose which parent you want to live with after you turn 12 yrs old. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough time. Hang in there, it gets better-Voodoo

Answer 7

Hey-

Welcome to the world of Yahoo!ANSWERs. I just went through a thing where I didn't want to go over to my fathers anymore and my parents are divorced. I had to go through the whole process of gettting a lawyer an blah blah blah. He finally signed the paperwork saying he wouldn't be my father.(I did this because he was dating someone I hated and her children too and more) But in order for my whole family to take me seriously I had to go to a counsler. I would ask your mom to go to a counsler. If she says no just get a journal or something and write down your thoughts, after a while you can leave them where your mother might look and just let her look into your "head". Hope this advice helped you. E-mail your decisions at [e-mail]

Answer 8

talk to a school counsellor, who will manage to connect you with an lawyer. You and the lawyer can evaluate the divorce and proceed from there. even if the courtroom will assist you've a say in a conceivable custody replace with out any case of abuse relies upon on your father and mom and the words of divorce.

Answer 9

I thank y need to sit down and talk to your family and tell them how you feel.All mothers get on there kids nerve but she does love you.Before deciding on moving in with your dad talk to your mom and stay with him for the summer and see if you like it.Be shire If you do still want to live with your dad set your mom down and talk to her.let her know you still love her.About your sis,don't care how tall or strong y thank she is if you stand up to her and knock hey block of she will leave you alone I know I had to with my sis. We are best friends know.When you get older your relationship with your mother will change for the better.

Answer 10

i think you need your father to request it and then if your mother denies you can go thru mediation. mediation is where all three of you would be "questioned" by an impartial person who would then consider what/where is in your best interest, along with your desire. then that would be sent to the court, which usually follows what the mediator has decided, but not always.