Should I leave my partner? I've had doubts over time but it just seems like no matter how many times I tell him (yes, I'm a guy, so I'm gay but don't flame me) what I want in the relationship, the things he did before, etc, he doesn't change, he does it his way. Also, today he did something that I told him not to do 1000 times, and he agreed not to, and he did it anyway.
Am I overreacting, or is this enough grounds to leave?
2006-12-31 06:34:25 · 17 answers · asked by Kevin M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
But see, the thing he did today was pretty minor but msot standards. He went to lunch with "old friends". No problem but he said he wouldn't ever do it. I'm hurt.
2006-12-31 06:40:09 · update #1
Here's a pic. Maybe's he's not cute enough to bother with anymore?
http://img147.imageshack.us/img147/2749/214053zz9vw7.jpg
2006-12-31 06:42:56 · update #2
If your relationship is no longer fullfiling, then yes, you should end it. If you feel like you are beating your head against the wall, and there is no change in sight....end it.
The right man for you is out there. But you will never find him, if you are wasting your time with the wrong one.
Your happiness is important, don't sacrifice it for someone who doesn't seem to give a damn.
2006-12-31 06:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by Chica Creole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 07:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why would you want to change someone that you truly care about? If you love this person, you should accept them for the way that they are, good and bad, flaws and all. Of course in any relationship, there will be things that the other person does that will irl your every nerve and drive you nuts, but that's part of the whole package. It's great that you're able to let them know your feelings on it and how much it bothers you, but if they don't change their ways, then they could be either stubborn or feel that they should be able to be who they are with you. If he truly cares for you, then he would want to compromise somehow.......maybe he's afraid of losing himself. People shouldn't have to lose their own identity and personality in any relationship. You two just need to give and take a little and gain some understanding from each other's point of view. When you let him know your pet peeves about him, do it nicely and with a lot of love, so he doesn't feel that you're just trying to change him. If it's extremely unbearable and definitely not something you can live with, then he's not for you.
2006-12-31 06:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by artutina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's enough grounds. A partnership, no matter whether straight or gay needs to be give and take on both parts. It sounds like you are giving a lot and not getting much in return. If you want to stay with him, then you definitely need a good talk....if not, I would tell him I was leaving---and why. Good luck.
2006-12-31 06:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how important it is to you that he not do what he did, should be a big factor. If he cant come to a compromise with you on anything, then he doesnt know how to be in a relationship,and doesnt deserve you. Sounds like he doesnt want to make things work. I think you should sit down with him and have a long talk about how the things he does and DOESNT do make you feel. If he is apathetic about the whole thing, perhaps its time for you to go your separate ways... Best of luck to you..
2006-12-31 06:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by bandcamp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first relationships are for people who want them. And to have a good relationship you have to compromise. And it doesn't sound like he does. Also I cant stand selfish people and if he is only doing whats good for him than maybe you do need to find someone who appreciates you. If you love him and he loves you than you can always try counseling. It all depends where you both are with each other. Good Luck...
2006-12-31 06:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bellatres 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't Respect your concerns and wish and it sounds to me their are some major Trusted issuses, it we have to tell someone that we don't like something 100 times that say something . Leave not in your corner if we care about our partners we don't try to keep them upset that's not Love or Respect get out. good Luck.
2006-12-31 06:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by silkieladyinthecity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy and have given your partner chances and warnings, go ahead and leave. There is no sense in staying in a relationship in which one individual is deeply unhappy. You aren't being unreasonable or overreacting.
2006-12-31 06:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Earnesty_in_life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it isn't going to change and you can't deal them hun - don't stick around there are other fish in the sea and you will find that perfect match. Good Luck!
2006-12-31 06:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if you have a relationship and they dont do it your way sometimes you should get in there and break up unless you really love him
2006-12-31 06:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by hotLove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋