I'm 17 (male) , my little brother is 12 and starting puberty. We've always had a really close bond, always got along. Our mom isn't in the picture, she passed away a long time ago, we live with our dad. Well anyway, my brother has a lot of questions, and out school doesn't do any sex ed/puberty program, so he's clueless. He was pretty frank with me, and asked if he could see me naked so he could see what a developed guy would look like. I'm a good example, because we have a good bond, he could ask questions and I could answer, and I've got the big muscles, hairy chest, and all that. I'm comfotable with it, and I really don't mind if he sees me. I'm just glad he isn't looking at porn or something. Nobody wants to see their dad naked, obviously, and he is usually at work anyway, so he isn't exactly a good person to ask. Is letting him see me naked morally wrong? Again, he asked, I don't have a problem with it. I'd just take off my clothes and let him look. Nothing sexual. Is it okay?
I'm 17 (male) , my little brother is 12 and starting puberty. We've always had a really close bond, always got along. Our mom isn't in the picture, she passed away a long time ago, we live with our dad. Well anyway, my brother has a lot of questions, and out school doesn't do any sex ed/puberty program, so he's clueless. He was pretty frank with me, and asked if he could see me naked so he could see what a developed guy would look like. I'm a good example, because we have a good bond, he could ask questions and I could answer, and I've got the big muscles, hairy chest, and all that. I'm comfotable with it, and I really don't mind if he sees me. I'm just glad he isn't looking at porn or something. Nobody wants to see their dad naked, obviously, and he is usually at work anyway, so he isn't exactly a good person to ask. Is letting him see me naked morally wrong? Again, he asked, I don't have a problem with it. I'd just take off my clothes and let him look. Nothing sexual. Is it okay?
2006-12-31 06:32:13 · 15 answers · asked by Nick S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I made an identicel topic with a different account. I forgot my password so I remade my account and question so I can award a best answer. Thanks to all who responded in the old topic.
2006-12-31 06:33:02 · update #1
He just seemed really curious as to what a guy wold look like after puberty. And no, he's not gay. I figure i's no big deal since we're both brothers, and I've seen him naked a lot of times too when he was younger, and sometimes now too if I need to wash my hands when he's showering or on the toilet or something. But he's never seen me.
2006-12-31 07:15:21 · update #2
I gave you an in depth answer before so this time I'll keep it short. Go ahead and let him see you naked. Let him ask questions and at everythign he wants to see. And don;t be surprised if he wants a follow up later since the first time he may not think of everything he wants to know. and I know many people will disagree with this one but if he wants to feel the size or shape or hairiness of anything I woudl let him. Given you two already have such a strong bond as brothers it is only fitting he learn about puberty and the like from you. Far batter than in the gutter.
2006-12-31 09:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else here, probably not a great idea. But if you're around him don't be surprised if he doesn't find a way to see you. Curious kids are crafty that way. I'm sure you have seen him and made no big deal about it, so he just expects the reverse is normal as well. Honestly, I don't see how he hasn't seen you before, my little brother was always busting into the bathroom or bedroom on me while naked, not to see me naked tho, just being a kid. I don't think he ever really acknowledged the fact I was naked most of those times though, I was just his brother, and just didn't happen to have clothes on at that particular moment.
2016-03-13 23:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an informational book at the bookstore or library. I was looking for ones for younger boys, so I know there is a large selection. You might be able to find ones with pictures of illustrations. He's probably got a lot of other questions on his mind.
I think it's okay for your brother to see you from at least a few feet away if you are both comfortable with it. Guys in school and in sports have to shower nekkid together anyways, and a lot of them feel awkward about it. This is a good opportunity for you to show him the there is nothing wrong with nudity.
If he doesn't see you he's going to think there's some taboo going on and it's going to bother him more, he's going to wonder what the big deal is. Once he sees he's just going to think "Oh, okay, now I know." and most likely not think much about it in the future.
2006-12-31 06:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by sorcergeek 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should answer any questions he has, but definitely not let him see you naked. You're nearly an adult now, and depending on where you live, purposely showing yourself to someone that young (even your brother) could be considered illegal.
2006-12-31 07:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by Minky mink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know. When I was that age, if I were to see any of my family members naked, the image would have been forever seared into my mind. For his sake, I think you should probably find a decent photo on the internet of a full grown nude man. That way, he won't have an nake image of you seared into his brain for the rest of his life.
2006-12-31 12:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Abby C 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That ain't right go tell your dad that he is getting curious and let them handle it and tell your little brother why you have to go to your dad for that.He'll understand,I can see why you are a role model for him but he needs to talk to your dad about that and I think your dad will understand and probably thank you for letting him have some say in that to.
2006-12-31 09:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think letting him see u naked is very appropriate.. if u want too teach him introduce him to some books or videos of sex or body parts this isn't normal for a brother to want to see his brother naked...for 1 reason a guy shouldnt be what he wants too see its woman he should want too see.. have u asked him if he is attracted to the same sex? i would approach him with that question...good luck
2006-12-31 06:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Constance♥ 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It seems to be a bit of an odd request, couldn't he look at (non-sexual) pictures on the internet or anatomy books? There must be sex education books available if they don't do classes at school. What about male showers at local baths, for example? Isn't that sort of situation where guys normally check each other out?
2006-12-31 06:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Dont you dare he is to young to see you naked
2006-12-31 06:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by hotLove 1 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Next thing he'll be asking is if he can touch it.
2006-12-31 06:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by WYL2TMP 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋