My relationship has been very rocky lately. Todays our anniversary and he said he's coming over but doesnt think it would be a big deal if we didnt spend one together. It REALLY hurt my feelings even though he gets on my nerves now days. He says he wants to ''have fun'' today....fun to him is him spending New Years with his low life brothers in a bar getting drunk or for all I know, cheating. I want this year to be a new beginning for us. I cant stand him sometimes but what can I do to make sure were off to a good start and have fun today?
2006-12-31 06:21:31 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You cant control everything. Let him go. Start the new year single & free. Make yourself a new woman!
2006-12-31 06:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by IMHO 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to say that New Years is a time to get a FRESH beginning. If you marry this guy, he's not going to be a good, serious husband. He doesn't seem very mature from this description. Tell him how you feel, and tell him that this is the new year, either way you want to start fresh, with or without him. Tell him that you want him to spend time with his brothers (if you do) if it's a nice family dinner kind of thing. Tell him that he's really getting on your nerves and isn't gaining your trust. Maybe you can ask him what he wants to do? Ask him if he wants to spend the day with you or his brothers, seriously. Tell him that your anniversary has nothing to do with his brothers.
Basically, tell him that either he spends your anniversary together, or today will be the start of a new anniversary with someone else.
2006-12-31 06:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Besch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first day's anniversary ( not his) of moving on without him. He's continuing his anniversaries: By NOT 1) spending anymore time with you; 2) hurting your feelings; 3) getting on your nerves; AND 4) to be with his low life friends;
5) making bar owners rich; 6) making love to other men or girls; 7) knowing you are out of his useless lifestyle at last.
2006-12-31 06:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by mypalnow2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know the answer. If someone is saying they will have more fun without you on your anniversary, there's something wrong. The fact that you don't trust him (you said he could be cheating) says your relationship is not solid. I agree with the others, start the new year off clean. It's easier said than done, but it's the right answer.
2006-12-31 06:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by TP woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for him to not want to hang out with you on your anniversary seems a little strange. but it also seems like an issue he has that doesnt concern you at all. if he doesnt want to include you for new years, not only since its your anniversary but because you are his girlfriend, then maybe since things have been rocky, you two should take some time away from eachother. you might come back to see that the rocky part worked itself out, or you might decide you dont want to go back, like i did. either way, look at it hard. do you want to stay because you love him, or because you want the comfort of having a boyfriend? that can blind-side your thinking alot of the times.
2006-12-31 06:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is two kinds of guys in the world.
1. Boys. They do what is FUN to THEM. They will never consider fun for you unless it is fun for them FIRST.
2. Men. They do what is FUN to BOTH of YOU.
You can spend your life with a guy who is going to look out for himself FIRST, or find a man who will share with you.
My neighbor is a BOY. 35 year old boy. Everything he does is for HIM ONLY. His wife always comes second. And yes, a big difference between boys and men is;
Men do not go to bars. Men do not get drunk.
2006-12-31 06:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU answered your own question!!! you say you cant stand him,,, why waste another year with this guy? Let him have his "low life brothers"" and let him go for HIS anniversary gift!! It sounds like you would be better off without him.. happy new year and anniversary{{ notice how I didn't put Happy in front of anniversary?"' GOOD LUCK
2006-12-31 06:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by MissMonk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfotunately, I feel the term "He's just not that into you" applies.
He is giving strong signals that he wants out of the relationship.
I am so sorry honey, it is never easy to deal with this situation.
Just be glad you are not married and can make a clean break from him. Someone is out there RIGHT NOW who is your perfect mate. Go find him!
2006-12-31 06:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to lay down the law honey. Tell him how you've been feeling lately, and well him whathe can do to make it right. Be specific about what you expect from him. If he continues to not come through for you, you'll have to be strong and cut him loose, or risk a lifetime of this crap.
2006-12-31 06:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some space. Listen to him to see if he gives any clues as to what he wants. Don't try to change him though because that never really happens. If you don't like his idea of fun and he does't like your idea of fun that means that neither of you will be happy in the long run
2006-12-31 06:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by biteme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have very different ideas of what fun is. do you think he is suddenly going to change? prob. not so its up to you change and do the things he likes for fun....ya you'll hate that too . I'm sure there is more to you two than what you wrote here but from what i see here you will never both be happy one will not get what they want. sorry but this is my take on your situation.
2006-12-31 06:27:26 · answer #11 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋