i met this guy about four month ago and now i feel like im really in love with him and i know that he loves me back. the only thing that's holding him back is marriage.he is 24 and merried and im 19 and single i've tried to forget abt him but i cant. i dont want to ruin his life but i love him way too much. plz tell me what to do.
2006-12-31 06:14:39 · 33 answers · asked by tara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please don't act on it!The fact that he is married and is trying to get with you shows what type of person he is.If he really was in love with you and not his wife he would leave her!I know it's hard to believe,but lots of women have been in this situation(I have known a few personally) and it NEVER turns out right.If he will cheat on his wife,he will cheat on you.Please walk away.
2006-12-31 06:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by G M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you say that "the only thing that is holding him back is his marriage"??? That's a huge thing! When he got married, he promised to love that woman until she died and to remain loyal to her. Does that mean nothing anymore??? Try to think about the consequenses for the other woman if you convince him to leave his wife. Put yourself in her position. How would it feel if someone else came along and stirred stuff up and took everything that makes you happy away from you?
Look, I'm not trying to judge you; I've got no right. I've really had some feelings for girls who were married before and in fact right now, I've been feeling for a girl for seven years who's engaged now that I finally have a chance to be around her. But when they're married, the BEST thing you can do is cut your losses and live with that infactuation for a while. It WILL go away. Think about this: If he's willing to back out on a committment he THOUGHT he would stick with forever, just for you, what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you later on. You can't mistake that infactuation feeling for "being in love". Being in love means being committed to each other, it means serving each other, it means being faithful to each other. That feeling you get... that's not love. Love isn't a feeling. So many people think it IS a felling when it's not. Love is something you do.
I hate to sound condescending... I'm not trying to come off that way. I'm trying to sound urgent. Don't let this happen. It's not your right to be in this guy's life. Hopefully he's mature enough to see that love isn't about feelings and holding hands and giggling and touching each other... If he's not, you should still stay away from him. You'll regret it for a long time to come when you see that the fun you have for about a year with him wasn't worth the damage he caused his wife. I promise. Good luck with making your decision. Remember, the feeling will pass with time.
2006-12-31 06:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Rockstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I say move on, would you do it? Seriously, breaking up girlfriend/boyfriends is one thing but breaking up married couples is something serious.
Get busy, don't think about him too much. I know that isn't easy but you have to give it a go. Date around, there are other guys out there. If you have the time and money, travel around with friends. Taking the time off and away from him would ease the feeling a bit. It's really hard to give advices that involves problems of the heart. Things, often than not, do not go your way.
2006-12-31 06:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to be a home-wrecker? This man is not on the market. Look for love elsewhere. Does he act like a married man? Whatis he was married to you, he'd probably be flirting with somebody else. What if you were married to someone, would you want some girl trying to screw up your marriage?
I say save the drama for your mama- plenty of single men out there.
2006-12-31 06:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you NOT want something better for yourself?
Comeon' the guy is a loser. He has betrayed his wife. He has no concern for her, her family or his for that matter. He is a liar and a cheat. He is dishonest. AND... he has manipulated you as well.
What the heck makes you look at that and find love?
Get some morals and selfesteem! It's time to move on to that something better that you deserve! Come'on! He's out there just waiting for YOU!
Oh... a final note. Upon learning that her lover was actually a married man, Queen Elizabeth let him. "But I love you," he cried. The Queens response was, "yes, you loved me enough to make me your whore."
Nuf said.
2006-12-31 07:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by DaBoomvang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a very sacred institution and you should not get in the middle of it as a matter of fact you should GET AWAY what if it were your husband and some other girl was intruding you wouldn't like it if it is meant to be it will happen just remember what goes around comes around there are two many single men around for you to mess with someone Else's GET AWAY !!!!!
2006-12-31 06:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by hmwh_mwc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tara, honey best advice I can give you is to leave him alone. Honey, listen to yourself you are 19 and the single and can have any guy she wants and the "guy" you so called rave about is 24 and already married. Keep in mind that wahat goes around comes around and if you wreck their marriage just to have him to yourself, then remember if yall two marry the same will happen to your marriage with him. Leave him and his marriage be! Have enough respect for his wife to not sleep with him. That is why he married her, he loves her and her only til death do them part.
2006-12-31 06:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're affected by the load of affection. the affection which you crave initially is unwarranted as you're destroying his family participants. the guy who could be suffering would be his toddlers and different family participants memebers. you have long undergone it, i'm useful you comprehend how plenty you have been with the aid of. So don't be a house WRECKER.. bypass locate some green pasture to banquet on. close him out of your existence and in time back ideas will fade away and you'd be effective back. For the 2d considering the fact which you have plenty like to furnish..... WHY no longer supply on your 2 stunning toddlers, they deserve soooooo plenty.... take care..
2016-11-25 03:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by kirk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should he love you back as you say--its for your younger body, not that his vow of marriage is holding him back, his wife would kill him and then neither you (a passing glance in the dark) or his legally married wife (by a sacred vow) would have him.
Don't ruin his life find a 19 year old boy to love you
2006-12-31 06:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by mypalnow2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run. It wont work. Would you really want to settle down with a guy that would cheat on his wife? Obviously he only cares about himself (and his little self). He tells you he loves you, but don't you think he's said the same things to her? Would she marry him otherwise? Run as fast as you can. You'll be glad you did when your 23 or so and meet the man of your dreams that devotes all of his love to you only.
2006-12-31 06:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ring Ring Ring Bananaphone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋