what do i do..this just happened yesterday...my boyfriend used to like her and asked her out but they never went out...what do i do i dont want to lose either of them and yesterday he had to go to eat dinner at 6 o'clock and said he promised to call me right back when h was done eating and he never did... but instead he called my best friend and they got in a fight and now they hate each other.my best friend said that hes a loser hippocrit and hes a liar...i dont know what to do someone PLEASE help me!!!!
2006-12-31 05:34:23 · 13 answers · asked by j0<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you've got to cut it off early. even if your boyfriend and your friend don't click, they should respect you enough to not put you in the position of having to defend the other side. talk to both of them. then listen to what each of them have to say, without freaking out. maybe they're not getting along because they don't know each other or feel they have nothing in common. get them to spend a little time together. who knows? they may end up liking each other! if hanging out doesn't do any good, it's probably best to stop trying to get them to connect. but that doesn't mean you have to give up one or the other. just accept the fact that you'll have to spend time with each of them separately. when your boyfriend and best friend clash, it's difficult, but it doesn't have to make or break your relationships with either. it just requires a little work. and since both sides have something in common - you - they'll likely be up for the job.
2006-12-31 05:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by emma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'd question why your boyfriend is calling your "best friend" after his 6 o'clock dinner instead of you. What was their fight about? It seems rather odd to me that your b/f use to like your best friend and even asked her out once?
What this sounds like to me?-----your b/f called your best friend instead of calling you because perhaps he still likes her (more than he should). Your best friend got pissed at his advances and now they're pissed off at each other.
Ask them both what "really happened" (try the old bait and switch--tell the b/f that your best friend told you everything and visa versa) and see which one of them comes clean with you first. Keep the friendship/relationship with the honest one and get rid of the other.
It's happened to me and I'm sure it's happened to many others; the best friend hits on the b/f or the other way around--one gets pissed off at the other and you feel caught in the middle, like you now must choose between them.
Follow your instincts, your gut....ask for the truth and then make a decision.
Good luck to you and Happy New Year! :)~
2006-12-31 06:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is separate your time with each one so YOU aren't the one that becomes hated. Let them do their own thing. Also watch out for who is the initiator of the fights. Because the one who whines the most is most likely the one you should just not spend much time with. I also had a problem with this. Though i lost my best friend over it. The ex and friend both hang out now together and are potheads. WAY TO GO! Anyways if they both seem to whine then maybe they aren't worth it.
2006-12-31 05:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by MoMoChan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess continue splitting the time between them. My best friend choose her boyfriend instead and we don't see each other anymore. I miss her, but her boyfriend basically made her to stop contacting me. It hurted a lot but there was nothing I could do.
2016-05-22 23:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So just dont put both of them in the same place and be friends with both of them. If they talk about hating each other change the subject.
2006-12-31 05:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by KC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are mad at each other it is probably for a good reason. your friend might be tyring to look out for you. you should ask him why he was calling her. He might be the problem, if they were friends first then you shouldn't get in the middle. but don't let them put each other down while around you, it wont be good for your relationship or friendship.
2006-12-31 06:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get them in the same place with you and get them talking to work out their problems with each other. but if you want my opinion, your BF is either very forgetful or a complete asshole. kinda reminds me of john tucker from that movie. who knows, there may have been more going on than you thought
good luck
2006-12-31 05:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by pendraco2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,as a girl,I'll be on my best friend side first of all.But as my advice the first thing i think you should do is sit both of them down and try and settle it.Don't make anyone feel as if Ur on their side.
And that doesn't work.........................DO NOT force them, u cant force people to become friends.
HOPE THIS WORKS OUT 4 U.
2006-12-31 06:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by miss_sj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u seem like u r in a situation! i would say that they should sit down with u and have some kind of talk!maybe that'll help.
2006-12-31 05:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by tayler a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the feeling your best friend is right.
2006-12-31 05:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋