2006-12-31 05:29:58 · 10 answers · asked by rasckal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
didn't want to divorce, i really honestly would have done anything else.
but he was an evil man. broke ribs, my nose, strangled me til i passed out so he could go out clubbing.
slept with my paralized younger brother's girlfriend, constantly cheated on me with nobodies.
even through that i wanted to seek counseling, an idiot huh?!
he just didn't want to be married, he's far to selfish of a human being and hurtful to boot.
i began filing because he kicked me out of our house four months pregnant, i lived in my car, the homeless shelter and at the restaurant i worked for in the booths.
he just pushed me too far.
2006-12-31 06:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by brandylyn_kay 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yep, twice.
First time was his choice. He wanted kids, I didn't...he'd cheated on me but I hung in there (foolishly)...I was 19 when we married and he was 24. Seven years later we separated, 2-1/2 yrs after that our divorce was final. I was too young when we married and ready to be an adult...I wasn't as "in love" as I thought. I quite probably didn't even know what love was at the time. Few teens do.
Second time was my choice. The marriage was a "settle" for me because I thought it might be my last chance. I was around 30 yrs old, overweight, and a bit insecure. The marriage was like being in an emotional vacuum...he was not a loving, affectionate person. I decided I'd rather be alone the rest of my life than in a relationship and be unhappy...so after expressing my feelings to him about how things needed to change, he thought everything was great, so I left. He was too emotionally empty for me and I didn't realize I couldn't live with that until we were married and living together.
Now, 10 yrs or more later I'm single and happy and don't care if I marry again or not...I won't settle again, that's for sure. We don't need relationships to "make" us happy or fulfilled...only oursevles.
2006-12-31 13:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not every thing was bad,most divorces are caused by many things but not all things.to turn what you think LOVE is to a bond with each other,go through a time period long or short, and things start breaking down you and her starts trying to fix the problems individually, or by your self because the other is in denial, and goes down hill from there, you have to both know there is a problem, it can not make it if one or the other is not willing to change the way it is.you don't have to stay in a bad situation, for any reason, LOVE IS NOT A STRUGGLE through LIFE. YEA YOU WILL HAVE PROBLEMS BUT TOGETHER NOT ONE. I HAVE LEARNED that a relationship with a nother person[ opposite sex ] is like a roller coaster up and down never stays the same always things change, example finances, unexpected situations, you might plan together one way but when them plans are interrupted you have to make adjustments together, when that doesn't happen your marriage is in trouble, cut it short it is not what is BAD it is working on all things together not by your self.
2006-12-31 14:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by warrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I filed for my first divorce when I realized my husband had married me basically to have someone to support him while he laid around with a fiddle and a bunch of his friends making 'music' - incidentally so bad, that no one wanted to hear it but them. I swore to myself I'd never marry again. 20 years later, I did. Now I remember why I didn't want to. It may be going to come to that again; this time I'm married to a guy who needs a mommy more than a wife; he can't seem to keep himself out of institutions long enough to hold a job so he can be the 'man of the family' - his term, not mine. He's not the man I married, and I didn't know him well enough at the time; should have waited, wouldn't have done it if I had. He's spoiled, whiny, and stubborn. And I'm not perfect, by a long shot, either, but neither did I take him to raise.
2006-12-31 13:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not from my end, I thought everything was fine. I tried to make things work out but nothing made any difference, he just wanted to be divorced so we are going through the process of that now.
TM
2006-12-31 13:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Shes a maniac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to make a marriage work. I gave it my 100+ percent. My husband was not unfaithful once, but repeatedly. As time went on he put less and less effort and attention to the marriage. Then stopped adding his finances to the marriage and spent it running around with his various girlfriends. I was left covering all bills and taking full responsibility for our girls. On top of that there was the physical, psychological, and emotional abuse. Then he moved out and in with a girlfriend.
Heck YES things were that bad!
2006-12-31 14:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Calina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a sinking ship I tried to keep it afloat for a while I got tired of doing it alone. I decided I didn't want to go down with the ship and saved myself. I still thank God everyday I got out because If I had stayed I would be a miserable person today.
2006-12-31 13:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by puzzled 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything was good except for our sex life. My wife wasnt interested and I quit being as sweet to her because of that. Then she met a guy who she fell in love with and now we are divorcing. I asked her to give him up and come home but she wont so we are split
2006-12-31 14:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do people give up a marriage if things aren't that bad? I couldn't look at him, I didn't want him, he irritated me to distraction. Oh, yeah, he cheated, now I remember what started it all.
2006-12-31 13:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating...yes...that bad...
2006-12-31 13:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋