I have a friend, and I use that term loosely considering the way she's been acting lately, with whom I've been friends with for 3 years. Only until the last 6 months have I noticed that she's hanging around with new people and I've been swept to the side. I guess it's just a little tough because prior to that we had a good friendship.
During these 6 months, I call or email her maybe once every two weeks to say hi and catch up, but she makes no effort to do the same. I have spoken to her about it and simply asked her if she wanted me to stop contacting her because at times she makes me feel as if I'm bothering her. She proceeded to tell me that she wants me in her life and was hurt that I'd suggest that, but she just doesn't get it that it takes TWO people to make a friendship. I sent her an X-Mas card and I got nothing.
I've decided to stop contacting her and let her go. But is it just me that finds that odd - to want a friend and then not make any effort?
2006-12-31 05:24:56 · 7 answers · asked by Majesty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like your friend is losing out on a great friend. I am jealous. ; )
Well, I think if you truly value this friend, then you will just have to back off for a while and let her go her own way. E-mail now and then if you feel like it, but don't expect anything in particular in return. Don't mail her a card, email her one, b/c that's free.
It may happen someday that you'll get your friend back, in a wiser and less selfish state too, so I wouldn't burn any bridges. Just back off a bit and make some new friends so you need not feel so dependent on the unreliable one.
2006-12-31 05:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest i think you are doing the right thing move on and find some new friend.if she really does want you in her life she can put some effort and contact you once in awhile.
But it sounds like you would be better off with out somebody like that in your life.My wife went threw that with her sister who was her best friend for years then she tried amd tried then just gave up she was hurt to much and every time she tried she just got mad again and nobady really needs that.So good luck and choice what will make you happy and not mad all the time it hurts but you learned something about her and do you really want somebody like that around you just to hurt you again .
2006-12-31 05:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it seems to me that you to are having a falling out. Try asking her out (not on a date) just go to the movies or something if you want to stay friends with her then you can at least make an effort an let her know that.
2006-12-31 05:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Via 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean! I had the same type of friend (notice I said HAD) She never called me I always had to call her- but if she wanted something I had or could get her then she would call me! When I finally called her on it ( her behavior) she had the NERVE to tell me she didn't need a friend who USED HER!!! I went ballistic on her and screamed when have I used you? Give me an example! Just one! She stuttered and couldn't give me one! So I said FU and hung up on her! Good riddance to bad friendships I say!!
2006-12-31 07:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
growing apart from friends is a normal part of life, suddenly you get swept up in new friendships, without meaning to jeopardize old ones.
2006-12-31 05:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by rocky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will reach a time that she will realize she needs you... that's odd for a good friend...
2006-12-31 05:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is not a one-way street.... if it is, it's not friendship...
2006-12-31 05:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋