I have a new bf that was friend's with my co-worker/friend before I even started talking to him. When I started showing interest in him my friend was all for it! She totally supported it...but when i told her he and I talked and he said he was saving himself for someone my friend got mad at him. I continued showing interest in him and she was always mad at me, my guess, is that she didn't want me to date a loser. Now that Im dating him (yes he came around) she always gives me dirty looks and when im with him she flirts with him. Im guessing she does this on purpose because she was never like this before. What is her deal? I don't want to tell her to stop because she is 24 and im only 18 so that would just seem odd. help plz!!
2006-12-31 05:24:41 · 3 answers · asked by MoMoChan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
From what you say, it sounds like she might have had a crush on him whether they are the same age or if hes younger, it happens. Or she just feels like you are getting in between their friendship because he now pays more attention to you.
Just talk to her. You are both adults and let her know she needs to stop flirting with him. Just because you are 18 and she is 24 does not mean you cant tell her anything. But shes not being a very good friend by doing what she's doing.
2006-12-31 06:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Blood&Wine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be ... that she at one time tried to get him to go out with her and got the same line? So she thought you would have no chance and was all for it. Then he changed his mind and it seems you are it, so now she is jealous and thinks perhaps she shouldn't have given up so easily?
I can't think of any other reason for her to be angry with you and flirting with him.
Maybe it is time to have a difficult conversation with her and/or with the boyfriend. I would take her to lunch and tell her you have noticed the daggers and the flirting and tell her it is making things very uncomfortable. Perhaps she will then confess the truth and you guys can clear the air.
I would also let the boyfriend know that you have noticed the flirting and that you would like him to make it clear to her that she has no chance with him.
Good luck.
2006-12-31 13:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend....shouldn't she trust your judgement ? She is flirting with him...sorry this is not your friend.
2006-12-31 13:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Frann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋