My wife just confided to me the other day that she wants to have an affair outside marriage.We have had a very good marriage so far but,it is just that she feels that she is bored and wants to try having an affair oustide marriage.It is more to fulfill a sexual fantasy.It took me sometime to get convinced but,I am now very ok with the idea.Are there any dating sites where I can help her find a date?
2006-12-31 04:52:10 · 53 answers · asked by rickankan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It must be nice to be so open. I would NEVER ok my wife to have sex with someone else. If she wants and has sex with others, GET A DIVORCE.
2006-12-31 04:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by D.C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound ready for an open relationship. I can't tell you what to do because only you know the answer to that. I can tell you a couple of things, first stress the absolute need for her to use a lot of protection and choose wisely. Second, whatever you do don't show her weakness. Don't plead with her or let her lead you around by the nose, unless you like being submissive. She'll lose all respect for you and you'll go through this and then she'll leave in the end anyway. Of course you can't concentrate. You thought things were one way then all of a sudden you found out the rules of your very life had been changed without your consent. I'd suggest perhaps you should tell her you want a separation. If, after all is said and done you two still want to be together then fine. Otherwise, you can go your separate ways with less hurt. One thing, and a lot of people will be upset at me for saying this, be sure that it's not a situation of her getting some and you not. If that's the case, you will forever feel cheated and it will never work out. Open relationships are not for the faint of heart. Only a small percentage of people have that sense of inner self to live that way. For most people it doesn't work out.
2016-03-29 02:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any sites listed in any of these forums could be considered advertisement under the community guidelines, therefore we can't really post any internet sites anyway, but there's tons of websites out there for people looking for that kind of thing. Do a google search for internet personals in your city, and I'm sure you'll find something.
I'm thinking you should put a lot more thought into his though. I can guarantee that if you let your wife do this, especially with your blessing, it's going to change your marriage, and probably not for the better. She may get the impression that because you agreed to it once, it's cool anytime she wants, or she might just decide she doesn't enjoy being with you anymore, since all of her adventure and sexual fulfillment is coming from outside wedlock.
Consider these things.
2006-12-31 04:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres an idea tell that for the last 2 years of your marriage that you have been having an ongoing affair with several different women just to add some spice to your life and to fulfill your sexual fantasy and see what she says about that. If she ask you why you didnt tell her "Cause you didnt want her to feel like she doesnt do it for you anymore" And then if she is cool with it then get a divorce cause thats where your headed but make it your divorce not hers.
2006-12-31 05:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Big Steve 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone uses the old wedding vows that say " to have and to hold etc... and till Death we do part" anymore but marriage is meant to be two people forever- not a threesome or a piece on the side!If your wife is BORED tell her to get a job or a hobby !! And you should try to spice up the love you give her so she won't be bored!! Rent some porno and set up your bedroom to be very romantic or wild or whatever you think she might enjoy and go at it like a MAN who wants to keep his wife Happy!! Good Luck!
2006-12-31 05:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage will never survive now..instead of allowing her to have an affair you should play some games in the bedroom..do things differently to spice things up in the marriage. Once she steps out the bounds of matrimony she commits adultry..and that is wrong. There are so many things you can do and talk to her about that will add spice and romance and pleasure unmeasureable to your marriage. I am telling you you should try these things b4 you allow YOUR wife to commit adutry..one affair will not satisfy her she will want more and more..
2006-12-31 05:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever have a backbone? Or are you gay? Those are the only two reasons that would explain why you cant sexually stimulate your wife. Look fella, if you were pleasing her where she needed it, she wouldnt be looking outside the marriage. Either start eating at the Y, or get an enlargement, or something, there are other tricks available. But, if you dont care, then go to the supermarket or put an ad in the paper. "Please screw my wife for me, because I am too much of a wuss!"
2006-12-31 04:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You are asking for trouble if you expect it to be a one time thing. Why are the two of you unable to work out whatever problems exist so your sex life can be fulfilling and she won't need to fulfill any fantasies outside of your marriage? What exactly is it that she will be getting from her fling? Will you part of it or will this happen on her own, without you? What if she gets pregnant? What if she gets an STD? Lots to think about...
2006-12-31 04:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not try adultfriendfinder.com and try to make it a "couple activity". Look into swinging. If you both still feel for each other but both want to experience other people then do it together. Find couples who are like minded, go to dinner and make it like a night out with friends with a different ending. This way you can still be with your wife but you both get to have the fun together creating a safer environment for you.
2006-12-31 05:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mistervision2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her. She's telling you up front that she wants to have an affair? Wow. And you're letting her? Even more wow. You both need to be checked into an insane asylum.
Marriage is the union betwen two people. Not three. Not four. Not outside people. You and your love. No one else.
When you guys took those vows, were thinking straight that day? I think not.
2006-12-31 04:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Lavina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way i see it why do you want someone else to do your job hell put some excitement in it and do some wild and kinky stuff to excite her because if she has this affair and likes what she's getting then where are you at. That's crazy and defeats the whole purpose of being married get a divorce and let her wonder off all she wants.
2006-12-31 05:03:03 · answer #11 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋