Is it wrong to stay unmarried?

Question

I'm a single 29 year old girl and i'm so happy with my life. I don't have any intention to have a relationship, let alone tying the knot. Is it normal for a girl to have that feeling, i mean, to stay single, or am I the only one thinking it's cool to be single? My mum is ok with that notion, but friends and relatives keep on asking when will I be getting married. i'm tired of answering them. Any suggestions for a good answer to silent them once and for all?

Answer 1

There is no wrong or right to your decision. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says - even your parents. Whatever decision you make, to marry or stay single is your decision and choice. In the end you are the one who has to live with and accept the consequences of it. Don't allow yourself and your decision to bullied or questioned by those who have nothing better to do with their life. A good way to answer them is with tact and love but yet firm. Leave them with their dignity but let them know you are secure with your decision and they should be too if they love you and respect your decision. What you need from them is their support of your decision. Because what you have decided is not going to make or break them. After you give them your "once and for all" answer don't think it is over. They will pout about it for a while(as gossipers and busy bodies do) and maybe even distance themselves. If that should happen, then it wasn't about you and your happiness it was about how they can control your decisions and life.

Answer 2

No, I was married and divorced twice. I am now 54 and happily single and aim to stay that way the rest of my life. I don't trust men, am not gay as some think. Don't want either sex. I enjoy my freedom to do as I wish, when I wish & how I wish. You can just tell them you are going to remain single so stop asking.
You will have lots more fun & avoid the heartache that relationships cause from having boyfriends in particular. I know that all relationships hurt at some time too, but at least I don't have to listen to it, I can just walk away.

Answer 3

I don't understand why people think that everyone should want what they have. I think it is perfectly fine if you want to stay single. My aunt has been single every since i was born. Everyone used to bother her about it in the beginning, and she just kept repeating her answer that she wanted to stay single. Most people leave her alone now, but even at 50 everyonce in a while people still ask her about when she is getting married. I guess it is kind of the same way with my boyfriend and I. We don't want kids, ever. Everyone tells us that when we get a little older things will change, and just because i don't like other people's kids doesn't mean we wouldn't love our own, and what not. So we just tell them AGAIN that we don't want kids. I think we will just have to deal with their closed minds. Good Luck, and i hope your family and friends eventually understand.

Answer 4

I am a 27 year old woman and feel the same way. I work with a lot of older people who often say things like " We need to get you married off soon!" or "We need to get you a man!" Ugh - I am not an expiring meatloaf people. I think that it is sometimes hard, esp for the older generations to grasp that women are self sufficient and have goals outside being a baby factory.

I say tell them you are having a " I didnt marry the wrong guy" party and their invitation is in the mail. Anyways, good luck and know that you are not alone!

Answer 5

no. marriage doesn't mean happiness. and if you rush it with just some random person, not the right person, you don't want to have to tell the right person yeah i was married to so and so. there is nothing wrong with being single. really. and i hate the fact that women feeel they have to be married at a certain age or they have to do this at this time and that doesnt make any sense to me. its just ignorant. so no you can be single forever and have a happier and more fulfilling life than someone married

Answer 6

It's absolutely acceptable. Obviously you have more important things to do, so you should have the freedom to do them. The next time someone asks you why you're still single, just smile and say, "I haven't found anyone worthy of me." That shows that you prioritize your happiness over anyone else's. I'm proud of you for choosing this life. You get the Rio Madeira Seal of Approval!

Answer 7

I'm 18, I don't want to get married for the next ten years. But I want to be married at some point in my life.

My mom's friend, was never married and never had kids. Her life is miserable, she wished she had kids. She adopted a girl, but when the girl grew up, she wanted to meet her real mom and she left her fake mom.

But if you want to have kids without being married, that's way worst. Being a single mom, and when the kids grow up, he/she wants to know his daddy.

It's good to have kids because trust me, in my culture, children respect their parents. First comes, God and then comes your parents willings. When you die, you left legacy behind by having a kid.

Answer 8

I am 18 and I plan to stay unmarried. I like the feeling of being able to do whatever I want whenever I want. I like to work and earn my own money and live on my own, just be more independent. I think its a great thing for women.

Answer 9

Not everyone in the world gets married. Just tell them "I will marry when and who I want, if I want at some later date."

You may yet change your mind. Staying single is certainly not morally wrong.

Answer 10

You'll change.
When I was 29, I was atypical girl, felt sorry for girls that married young burdened w/kids, immature, travelled the world, didn't care about anything and marriage wasn't even a thought.
But maturity happens when you least expect it and now 4 years later, I want what other girls want - marriage and family.