Why do PEOPLE say MEAN/Hurtful things OR ask WEIRD questions?

Question

For example, there is this girl that keeps on saying "Eww..she is weird/" The thing is everytime she talks to me about someone like this,all I want to say is "Look, you are fat and have pimples all over your face, your breath stinks and you dress funny and you still somehow manage to make fun of other people!", but I have to hold myself back because I don't want to hurt her feelings..

How come some people NEVER think before they say something..

Or they ask weird questions about a persons character like "Why do you talk like that?" Because HE DOES. How can anyone answer that.. I hate people like that..it's so annoying because they have more problems than the person they knit-pick on.

Some people are misinterpreting my post. Pointing out another persons FLAW is not honesty nor is it right. It is highly unneccesary and plain rude.

Answer 1

Number one reason for this is low self esteem, next is jealousy, third immaturity and last but not the least, they are unhappy.

Answer 2

haha... I know alot of people that does that. Sometimes, it's good though because if a person tells you something you always do that looks weird, they will ask, why you always do that? and you change that weird.

But in high school, I used to just talk and talk, my best friend used to ask me, "You say anything you like, you don't even know that you saying hurtful things to people". So, after that, I stopped doing that. I think before I speak so I won't hurt anyone's feelings.

So, you should just tell your friend that she is saying things that can hurt other's feelings.

Answer 3

Answer for 1st question: She probably says all that stuff because she knows that she's fat, she has pimples all over her face etc. So she's striking first before anyone else strikes against her 1st or she just dosen't realise,.
Answer for 2nd question: They ask because they have never heard other people talk like that or they are just curious.

Answer 4

well it is as you have said they don't rightly think befor speaking. We all have done it a time or two, however as you stated there are some that do it regularly. It is a hard habit to break, often a way people try to avoid thier faults. sometimes people state such things trying to be funny, it is often a way of talking about other things to avoid being ridaculed themselves

Answer 5

Regarding your post i would say you think the same things these people say, the only difference is you dont say them, but the thoughts are just as bad, and deceiving really, because these people have no idea what you really feel about them....so are you any better....i think you are worse, because at least they say these things upfront...you dont.

Answer 6

I know the kind of people you mean. It's just that they have low self-esteem, and by drawing attention to other people, they are hoping no-one will notice their problems. It's all a reflection of how bad they really feel about themselves, "projecting" if you will.......

Answer 7

usually that means thta they are just jelous iof how you look or how many friendsyou have or something but really it doesnt matter what other people think you can tell if your beautiful ornot dont depend on others to tell you how you look or to point out bad things they are just perves and jelous hope that answers your question

Answer 8

there like that because they learned that from there parents and listening from other people that are around them, maybe you should tell her in a nice way that she shouldn't judged the book by its cover and see what she says, there are a lot of people out there like that and I think it is terrible any way good luck!

Answer 9

They do that to try to call attention to someone else's "flaws" so they themselves won't look or feel so bad. It's just another form of insecurity, being defensive. "Attack before BEING attacked"

Answer 10

some ppl just want others 2 make themseves feel bad---- keep on giving them a taste of their own medicine