Well all the questions I ask are always about my husband and I, heres another one.
I left my husband back in August, got a protection order, and filed for a divorce. Well not to long after I found out I was pregnant. So I decided to get back with him (because I still loved him and I didnt want a baby growing up in a split home, like I did) at the end of September. Well we still had problems but were trying. Well he started going to the bars, leaving me at home, and coming home at like 2-3 a.m. After a month of that I kicked him out. Well he had to go to court for hitting me and was put on probation. Since I had the protection order against him, they said he couldnt come back until it was dropped. Well I got it dropped this past Friday, he didnt come home. I found out that there was another girl in his truck Saturday. You know he calls me and tells me he loves me and blah blah blah. I just dont get why he did this? Why couldnt he be honest? What should I do? I just fell stuck.
2006-12-31 03:39:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I want to say thanks for all the advice. I know I need to leave him but its hard. I always wanted to be married and stayed married. I feel like a failure. Anyways, I guess today my friend saw him with the girl and he was hanging out with his cousin.
His cousin is a crack head and all they do is do crank.
So im leaving him finally. I given him chance after chance. Everytime he has hit me he was tweaking. I told him I wouldnt tolerate him doing crank. Should I call his probation officer and tell her?
2006-12-31 05:35:15 · update #1
u set boundaries for him, he still hit u, and instead of working on the marriage and controlling his anger, he went out and found someone new to be with. he isn't honest because he would have to be accountable and show remorse, and he isn't ready to do it. words are cheap, actions tell the story. don't allow him to come home until he is willing to be truthful, and start treating u right. u weren't created to be abused by someone. he didn't like it that there was a restraining order on him, and he had to appear in court and answer for his actions, so he went out and cheated on u, so is this what he is going to do every time u and he have a problem? immature man who won't take responsibility for his actions.
2006-12-31 03:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HEEEEEELLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOO! Why HE did this? You're insane enough to let him back into your life again and again and again! Would you rather have your kid growing up thinking that this is the way to trat his woman, or for her to think this is the way her man should treat her? NO! So what if he was with another girl? It's obvious he doesn't respect you or his baby. Move close to your mom or dad- which ever one will help you raise that baby- and get the hell away from him! He'll go all through the rest of his life being a piece of crap. In America you have the choice of who you want to marry and you pick him? You're going to keep making this mistake why??? You know I'm right on this one!!!
2006-12-31 12:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel "stuck". That is the last thing that you are. You were on the right track several times it sounds like, but then you fall off. Stick to the restraining order, keep him out of your life and find a support system to help you through this and to help you stick to your guns. I do not know if you have family to turn to, many times in these situations the first thing that happens is they alienate and isolate you from friends and family. Call your local domestic violence prevention agency. They will help you get on the right path and stay there.
2006-12-31 11:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were on the right track with the restraining order and divorce. Get back on track and stay away from him. He isn't capable of having a healthy relationship. Sometimes it is better to raise a child without the other parent rather than having the child see her mother getting hit , father cheating. and so on. Do what is best for her. Make a Nice life without him.
2006-12-31 11:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be good to yourself and your unborn child; get the protection order and divorce reinstated. Once the child is born, have the court order child support and only supervised visits. It won't be easy being a single mom, but you and your child have the chance to thrive.
Because he has physically abused you in the past, you would be putting your life in danger if you stay with him. You deserve a good life, but it won't be good with him!
2006-12-31 11:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Courtney it is time for you to stop worrying about him and worry about yourself and the baby.
The baby deserves better- I understand that you dont want it to be brought up in a split home. However, would you prefer it growing up with an alcoholic no good dad who likes to smach his wife now and then?
You aren't stuck- you know what to do and that is to leave the bastard alone... move on and start thinkin about the babys welfare.
2006-12-31 11:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well,ma'am, i'm no dr.phil,but here's my 2 cents on the situation.ask yourself this. one.do you really love your husband? i mean in spite of all his faults? can u forgive him for hitting you? for possibly cheating on you knowing he's a father?second. think about your child.is he going to be the kind of role model that a dad should be? will your home be a happy environment for your child? i think not.
also i understand how it would feel for you to have grown up in a split home.but still considering your circumstances choose your options wisely. and three.. you should consult a marriage counselor and not depend on the advice given here. hope this can help u out in some small way.
2006-12-31 11:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by Nick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run, run fast and run far. It is much better to grow up in a home where folks are divorced then to watch a destructive marriage slowly fall apart. Cut your loses and move on. Maybe you can meet a real man who will be an excellent step father to your child.
2006-12-31 11:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by educ8rkids 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You were on the right track with the restraining order and divorce. Get back on track and stay away from him. He isn't capable of having a healthy relationship.
2006-12-31 14:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Pramod 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should put the restraning order back on file and live you life without him! if he has hit you before who is to say he won't throw you down the stairs or something worse while you pregnant. FORGET this man he is BAD NEWS!
2006-12-31 11:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋