I don't get it??

Question

What is this persons problem??
My best friend if I can still call him that of 13 years started acting strange about two or more years ago, he started not returning calls, make plans and not show up, drop of the face of the earth and then out of no where reappear like nothing happpened, Then he would turn around and say I am a bad friend.. cause somehow i not there for him..what..I always called him and made the effort..
I found out later he was very depressed so I accepted that and thought maybe we could be friends again.. so he called me recently and invited me out and then he said I will call you later with information about where we can meet and what time.. he never called, I as hurt so i called him a later in the week to see what happened, he was like why didn't you call me, I was floored, he made plans with me, didn't call me and now he was blaming me.. what..so i told him no you told me to wait and you were going to call me back.. then he was like oh your right.. what

the thing is I have tried to help many times and nothing works but it just keeps hurting me over and over again.. oh and he is 27 and I have known him13 years since high school.. being a friend is great but when is enough enough??

Answer 1

Doesn't sounds like a friendship to me at all. Doesn't sound like your getting anything out of it and I can't see what he's getting out of it other then messing with your head. Sounds like you two maybe have a little more history then your stating in this question. Tell him how you feel in person and see what he says. Sounds to me like he's playing with your emotions though. Good Luck! '-)

Answer 2

Maybe you should try to find out what is wrong with him because something is obviously not right. He could be going through something though which caused such behaviour. Try asking his relatives and friends. They should know. If nothing is wrong, find a new best friend. You should not feel guilty of leaving your best friend behind because he was the one who did this to you and you did make an effort to see what was wrong. Find a psychologist for him though.

Answer 3

I don't get it- if you are dating this person and his behaviour is such , drop him and move on- it sound like he has several problems- beside depression-

If he's a friend at this point in the friendship- do not take him serious- hear him out maybe- depending on how valuable your time is to you - or let him be something in the past-

Answer 4

listen he mast have things going on in his life that you don't know about. probably money or family. and if his depressed at the age of 13 that's bad because he's already going through things it's all part of growing up. Just say to him i know your going through things right now and your upset but I've got feelings to and if you don't support that then we cant be friends. call him 3 times every week if he doesn't answer in 4 weeks then it's time to make new friends.

Answer 5

Well, maybe you don't know he whole story, ask him if he has any problems in his life. If he is suffering from emotional or temperamental pain.
Unless you done something yourself to hurt him, you cannot blame yourself for any of this. ask him if there is anything you can do to help... if he is your true friend he will accept your hand of friendship. don't let him break plans, you have to prove you care, show him you are there for him.
This all could be a cry for help.

Answer 6

sounds like your friend has something more serious then just depression..you need to find some way of meeting up with him In PERSON for a serious talk so you could get to the bottom of whats going on.

Answer 7

some are very free spirits, they forget plans made and fly by life by the seat of their pants. mean, no just kinda ignorant to peoples feelings. they feel they have made such a strong bond with you that you will never turn away from them. either except him for what he is cause he is not going to change or confront him and ask him if your relationship is something he wants to lose if he continues to mis-value you.

Answer 8

well maybe something bad happend like someone is like hurt or something but then you guys can think of the good times and maybe give him a present and you know what you both love each other deep deep more!your ice cold geting warmer warmer your on fire right at the heart well good luck =)

Answer 9

I you really value the friendship try to work through, but if the emotional toll of the friendship is getting to much for you, you just have to cut your losses...Being friends with someone shouldn't be so difficult...

Answer 10

He's probably spending time with you out of boredom for lack of anything else to do. When he doesn't spend time with you, he pretends it's your fault because he is in a state of denial about his own behavior.