What should I do?

Question

I have a husband whom I feel doest get me.Every since we had our child things have changed and I dont see them changing.Right now I can not support myself or the kids.Should i continue to feel so alone?

Answer 1

Sit down and talk to your husband about what your feeling and what your thinking

Answer 2

Children change things. From personal experience, I know this, but also...it's just a known fact. Question is, can you still enjoy being together despite those changes? You can try talking to him, like "things are different between us since (so-and-so) was born, and I want it to be better...do you feel the same way".
If you can't support yourself and child...and you think that's the way to go...you need to make a plan to get there....in terms of making a budget and seeing what you need to do to get that income. But almost always a woman's standard of living goes down in a divorce. Is that going to be OK for you and this child? How are you going to make income while watching your child or who will care for your child and if not family, that's a big expense and concern to get a caring, conscientious person. What about the child's relationship with his/her dad? How will you be affecting that in your choices? Seems like you need to do alot more work, counseling, planning, consulting before you make ANY decisions about this. Also...I don't know how recently you had this child, but wild hormones rage for about 6 months and can severely affect your moods...I wouldn't make any decisions at all in that time frame. Good luck.

Answer 3

Sit down and talk with your husband about it. It's the only way he's going to know how your feeling. Also, see a marriage councelor. They can help give you ways to get these issues out in the open and discuss them in a healthy manor.

I wish you the best. Take care, God Bless and Happy New Year!

Answer 4

There are alot of veriables here but, for every action there's a reaction. If you feel he doesn't get you,then concentrate on those
issues that you feel He doesn't get you on. Provideing He talks to
you. The one thing for sure, THOSE KIDS COME FIRST!. If the invironment is not suitable, ( I hope you know what suitable is ),
then a " Mutual Understanding " should be made. I leave you with this little thought, " If you can't be friends, you can't be anything ".
because friends respect each other!GOD BLESS/GOOD LUCK
P/S; If you can't LOVE each other, LOVE YOUR CHILDREN!
they're a GIFT FROM GOD!!!!

Answer 5

Most problems with couples today can be traced to a lack of communication. If you are in a truly committed relationship, you need to be able to say what needs to be said and to listen as well. Just talk with your spouse about the problems and honestly work toward a solution before one of you ends up calling a lawyer.

Answer 6

you need to find a way to sit down and talk, find out together things. Do it as freinds, not as just husbund and wife, open doors of communication and it will change things for better or worse, find out now, not later.

Answer 7

Have you tried discussing this with your husband? Try marriage counseling...

If nothing works- you can move out and file for child support and spousal support.

Answer 8

no , you shouldn't feel alone in the marriage like this. could be you just need to pour your heart out to him. if you can't talk to him like this , put it in writting for him. and let him know how you are feeling.

Answer 9

how long have you been married and if needed take him away for the day so you too can talk all alone.

Answer 10

no , talk to him, go and see a counsler, you should never feel alone, try and figure why you feel this way and tackle it head on. good luck.