Alot of the time i wake up and find the breakfast shows bringing up adolesent relationships but it's a shame that some have to spoil it for the rest that dont have sexual interaction and getting pregnant. im 13 and my boyfriend is 14 , we have a normal relationship without the involvement of sex because i do not admire teen pregnancy , Am i still in the wrong to have this relationship because im starting to notice parents arn't up to giving their teens over to start growing up especially some mothers. Anyways please don't leave answers that arn't relative or innapropriate.
2006-12-31 02:57:02 · 29 answers · asked by Stelle S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm 14, and I know how you feel. I live with my dad and he's fine with relationships; he trusts me enough not to have sex with a boy or do something I'd regret. However my mum is still uncomfortable with the fact I'm attracted to boys and I date... but that is, I believe, purely because I don't live with her and she's worried I'll get hurt in a relationship or make a mistake. I also think that being my age adults don't take adolescent relationships seriously enough. Such as, "Oh, it's just a phase, you'll get over him." Sure, most but not all of the time that might be the case, what about the stories of young women and men marrying their high school (or middle school as the case may be) sweetheart? The kinds of people that continue to bring up the topic of teenage relationships seem to have forgotten they were probably the same when they were our age. I'm not saying sex or sleeping around etc, I'm talking genuine, normal, enjoyable relationships with the person we like or love. You're not in the wrong, but your parents and other adults are concerned for your safety and the safety of other teenagers... because many are not as responsible or trustworthy as you and I. I agree with you, it is a shame, but you can't let it get to you. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, regardless of what others think. As long as you are acting responsibly and aren't being pressured by your boyfriend, or any boy in that matter, and if and when you do decide to have sex you practice it safely, there's nothing to worry about. Unfortunately a lot of young teens in the 13-15 group are immature and naive, and think that sleeping with their boyfriend or even just an acquaintance will boost their popularity. Maybe it does.... but for all the wrong reasons. People need to stop judging teenage relationships as a whole, as it's not the all of us that are in the wrong, it's only a specific group that go out and do those things without thinking of the consequences (sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy). Now that IS a shame.
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2006-12-31 12:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong especially as you seem to be very mature about what your boundaries are. Most of the time parents are more worried that the boys you would go out with wouldn't respect your wishes. I have a 14 year old daughter who I can trust I just don,t trust other people as I know when I've gone on a walk with her & her best friend car loads of young men blast their car horns, or yell suggestive things to them.
I allow both my son & daughter to have girl or boy friends however my husband & I insist we meet them.
2007-01-01 01:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with having a boyfriend at 13. In fact my husband and I met at 13 and began being boyfriend and girlfriend. However, my parents did not allow us to date as far as go to the movies together by ourselves or that sort of thing. If your parents will not let you spend time with your boyfriend outside of school ask if they will allow you to go to the movies with an adult whether it be your parents or his or even a family friend that the adults trust. I believe that adolescent relationships are a healthy way to find what you do or do not want in a relationship for when you are older and ready to start a family. And please continue to abstain. You will not regret it.
2006-12-31 11:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not abnormal or worng for you to have feelings for a boy your age. That's part of growning up. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and just show your parents how mature you and your boyfriend can be. When the people aroung you are talking about having sex, don't cave in, let them know how you feel, and tell them there are more important things out there than sex.
2006-12-31 11:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by nodesignerdogs4me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say it's wrong to have a boyfriend at that age, but you will have all the time you want when you are older. I'm 21yrs old and I know how you feel because when I was that age almost everyone I knew was having sex and I was like we are only 13 and 14 yrs old. That wasn't on my mind at all at that age. Even when I got in high school, I might have thought about sex but I knew that was something I didn't want to do yet. Now if you get to that age around 16, 17yrs old and you have those urges or you really feel like you want to have sex I would say to talk to your mom first to let her know what you are thinking and then she would probably put you on birth control. All in all, just be safe if you feel you ever want to do that, but it seems like you have a good head on shoulders and that you will wait until you are old enough to do so. Plus, don't let peer pressure get to you, if your friends try to get you to do something you don't want to, they are really not your friends, and believe me you will find that out when you get in high school because girls have jealousy issues and they are trifling. So good luck and happy new year!!!
2006-12-31 11:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jazz21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great you have the time to see alot of the 'breakfast shows' regarding pregnant teens and I'm glad you have a normal relationship without sex - hats off to you! It would be really great if you and your boy friend maintain this relationship thru high school and maybe college.
To prove, to your parents, that your relationship has nothing to do with sex - spend your dates with your parents present at all times.
The more time they spend with you, and your boyfriend, the easier it will be on them. This way they really get to know him and they will trust you more.
I'm really glad to hear from, at least one, teenager who has her priorities correct.
2006-12-31 13:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some kids are not as smart as others. There are alot of teens out there who fall for peer pressure and this causes them to get into trouble. Raped, drugs, killed, kidnapped, and many other not good things. Due to peer pressure and the pressure to be the "coolest" causes kids who normally would use good decisions, to pick decisions that they should have decided against. At the age of thirteen, most kids especially girls will be more gulible, and follow the leader. Not all, but most. I hope you are really as strong as you say you are, and hold your morals higher than the peer pressure.
2006-12-31 11:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a bit early to have a sentimental relationship at 13. To be good friends, it's ok. But for true love, wait 4 a couple of yrs
2007-01-01 15:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by tribalism 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i would think there would be something wrong if a 13 year old wasnt dating, or at least interested in it.... there are just some who take it too far, and think they know everything about love and relationships--they are the ones who give teens dating young a bad rep. screw them, just do what you want to do as long as you feel it is something you can be proud of, and are responsible enough for
i admire you for what you said :]]]
2006-12-31 21:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by =] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear: Girl
You may be trustworthy to go out, but your parents are only trying to protect you,it is great that you dont believe in teen pregnancy but what about your boyfriend sometimes teens dont realize that they are going through a very hormonal change in there lives from a boy to a man and a girl to a woman,your hormones take over and they have no time to think about beliefs,they act pretty much on there own and along with your body's changes,if you really care for each other give yourself time and dont rush things you are only 13, I was not allowed to go out until I was16 and my parents had to know where I was going,I did not dare lie to them,I respected them and they learnt that I would be ok! a going out after a few times.respect your parents wishes they just dont want you hurt,my niece is 13 and there is no way that my sister would allow her to date and she's a wonderful girl,there are to many people out there and other teens that are bad influences.Give yourself time,have lots of fun as friends but set your goals high,it's great that you like this guy but first sit down and write your goals down in life and make them your first priority.only you can full-fill your hopes and dreams.God is our gift our gift to God is what we make of ourselves. Good-Luck Your mother loves you enough to protect you and do the right thing one day you will look back on this day when you have children of your own that are your hearts and think to yourself what was I thinking there is no way I am letting my little girl at the age of 13 go out with no boy.
2006-12-31 11:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by lil frogger 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋