But when I don't agree with his choices, I worry if I step in to help, I am stepping on his toes? How can I use my strength to fortify our marriage without emasculating him?
2006-12-31 02:41:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stick to giving him choices in matters that are best suited to his particular skills, knowledge and ability. If he is great at fixing thing, then let appliance be his domain and let him rule and make decisions/repairs/choices in those areas, as one example.
If he sucks and balancing a checkbook and you are great at it, then that should be your domain with allowing him a peak behind the curtains to understand the innerworking and how much/little there is to work with for projects within his designated domain.
2006-12-31 02:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For a marriage to be successful both the husband and wife need to make those plans together. Not just leaving them to one spouse or the other, and with those plans you have to comprimise, and no marriage will work without comprimise or communication. I understand you love your husband and don't want to make him feel less of a man, but if you don't agree with his choices, you have to tell him. That's where the comprimise and communication comes in. Give and take. Marriage is a 50/50 partnership.
Just talk with him about it and let him know that you don't agree with his choices. If he's a good husband and listens to you and respects you, he will work with you to where you can both be happy. Hope that this helps. Take care and God Bless
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2006-12-31 03:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn. Is your marriage all about you or what? You "let" your husband make plans...whatever.
2006-12-31 02:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋