What to do on New Years Eve Day with my bickering parents?

Question

My parents are "disagreeing" again; which is nothing new. They have been fighting all my life. My dad has thyroid disease and diabetes and he was in a bad accident years ago that caused him to break 9 bones and lose his spleen. The doctors thought he'd never walk again. my mom is on lots of medications, she has a muscle disease (fiber mialaga) , two herniated discs, and she's suffering from depression. Therefore, they are both always in constant pain and miserable. My dad is known to be very verbally abuse, I'm guessing as a result from the way he was raised. I am unaware of the full story on that. But I do know my mom raised herself and when her mother was there, she would beat her and was very physically and verbally abusive to her. Her father was an alcoholic and drug abuser who died 4 years ago from emphysema and had hepatitis B and C. He was also schitzophrenic. So both of my parents are unhealthy and kind of screwed up. I also have been abused physically and verbally by my parents and brother and perhaps this is the aftermath from the way the were raised. Yesterday, my parents were arguing about CARS. my dad wants to get rid of his truck and get a cheap, affordable car that will be less harsh on mileage. My mom said we can't afford a new car. We just bought a brand new 07 ford fusion and I just bought my 03 ford focus under their name as well. My mom and dad always go for a walk together and my mom got sick of arguing with him and she split and went the other way around the block and walked home. My dad, of course, walked home and he LOCKED the door. She came home and noticed the door was LOCKED and she left and went to her friend's house and parked the car at family pizza. Her friend picked her up and shortly afterward, my dad drove by looking for and she came home. My mom tends to make more drama then is really necessary. She told him she's going to work new years eve and day. ie. she didn't need to drive off, she didn't need to say she's going to work. Half of the time; she'll say she's gonna do something and not do it. Now we're arguing because no one can figure out what to do on this holiday. We just need something to keep us busy today, 2maro I go back to work.

Answer 1

I deeply understand your pain,and love for your parents.Is there a favorite place they like to eat at? Or even a board game,or something that can be done as a family?Even just a quiet special lunch together,or rent a funny movie,to watch together.God Bless,and good luck!!!

Answer 2

well it sounds like two people are miserable and one cant take it any more the time is now go do your own thing get out enjoy life and don't let them hold you back yes love them. waite! love? have any of you told each other how much you love each other? that works you know bond, tell them what you are feeling and that its not making you feel less confident about being around negetivity its looks like your the parent are the children then treat them like the winers they are that should motivate them to open up and start thinking what they are doing to every one else... doing some thing on the new year day how bout family dinner if you havent had a good sit down dinner lets talk about this type dinner ,just drink and for get about it lol just kidding waite till i get there then we will start drinking ,no but serious just be calm and talk to them the best way is one on one then in group session it opens it up a little better keep me inform good luck and happy new year

Answer 3

You can't change your parents and right now you can't move so you have two options.
You can change your exposure, which in this case would be to spend more time with your friends and less with your family, or more time alone, like in your room with a book or something.
The other option is to change your reaction. Try to view the situation as temporary. You will grow up and move out and get away. Try to relax and not let their bickering get under your skin. It sounds like they do have a lot of issues, health and other. Try to remember that and be patient when they bicker. Your parents problems are their problems, not yours, and you can't resolve them.
AND, work to get good grades, think about what you want to do as a career, start preparing yourself for being an adult, moving out and making your own decisions. When it gets really bad, make plans for how your life will be different when you're on your own and in control of your own life.
As for stuff to do on New Years, if I were in your shoes I'd be looking to spend New Year away from the family, with friends or with my nose in a book.

Answer 4

Just go do your own thing an quit worrying about the parents so much. take this time for yourself and just get away for awhile. Go to a friends house and forget about all their problems for a lil' bit! You can't make them get along honey....concentrate on yourself.

Answer 5

why are you staying there?????????? do you love misery? your story sounds like you had it tough and for some reason you choose to still have it tough. everyone has choices. make your choice. let them be unhappy together. visit them occasionally. i too, had a terrible childhood. i broke away. i am me. i am not unhappy. i choose to be happy, funny and always setting obtainable goals. you are not responsible for you parents happiness. cut the cord. get out.

Answer 6

I would say get out the family Bible and pray for your unity and strength for the upcoming year. God will do a better job of running things around there if you just invite him in.

Answer 7

you certainly have a strange family. sounds like your parents are set in their ways and there is little or nothing you can do about it.

Answer 8

its time to move out.and move on with your life,the drama that your under is only stopping your happiness,life is too short,find so Friends,go out...

Answer 9

Find another place to live. Quick. For your own sanity.