Still a chance?

Question

I'm a Senior in high school beginning of the year decided I was going to try to make new friends with people, everybody but one group especiallyI was invited to work on a school project with this group it went very well better than I ever could have hoped for they liked me we really connected and it seemed like they were really accepting me, one of them even said that they were worried about working with other people because the people in the group were the only ones they felt comfortable with, and I was one of them. But I was too shy to ask to sit at lunch with them. Since then I haven't really talked much since, i kind of got in the mentality that it was over so I stop talking to people. Anyway I got to work on a project with a member of a rival group to these people who was also inviting, but I decided not to sit with them all the time because I didn't want to get involved in looking like i chose one over the other, since they've both been equally inviting and I consider the people in both groups at least acquaintances, and, in all fairness, I can no longer sit with original group, so i don't go to lunch anymore. I'm still a friendly acquaintance but with half the year gone and only 5 months to go I have basically given up

Answer 1

Dear High School Senior,
It's never to late to make friends with those people and actually I'm guessing they consider you a friend now anyway.More than likely they are just confused by your actions. I suggest that you speak to them say "good morning" when you see them in the halls at school or "hows your day going?" make small jestures and soon things will fall into place.
If nothing else give those people who are your friends believe it or not a kind smile and keep walking, if you wish not to speak to them. Sometimes not saying anything and smiling is enough and thats all is needed.
Don't feel like if you speak to one group the other will think" oh she's talking to them, huh well just look at that!" Things have changed for a lot of you seniors and that includes you. As time goes on and those 5 months pass by, you and the rest will no longer be seniors but adults! Yes thats right hard to believe time went by so fast. So I do suggest that you go ahead sit down to lunch with those people.. because as an adult you'll quickly learn that it's ok to sit down to lunch with someone or a group and still be able to do the same with another person or group.. they want think its being unfair or look at it in an elementary way...
Dont give up it's never to late for anything. I wish you so much good luck in your future and I hope that when you walk down the isle for graduation you'll look at all those friends cause you'll miss them.. trust me on that one. So do cherish these times now.

Take care and have a wonderful new year!!

Answer 2

Take it from me, I'm 35 years old and I've been there. Groups wont matter after high school. Kids label each other simply on the basis that the other people are different from them. We can't all be the same. If you wont to be friends with both groups tell them so. Tell them you're not agaist or for the other group you are just trying to make friends. That doesn't mean they have to hang out with people from the other group..just you can. If the other group get's mad at ya then they weren't worth being friends with in the beginning. Lighten up..have fun..everything will work out for the best. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Be an acquaintance with all of them, you will learn from everyone you meet. When you get out of school most of you will part ways and you'll find new friends and acquaintances.Over the years you'll look back at high school and ponder at thoughts of the people you knew. Some will become doctors, lawyers, or engineers, or even be world renown, others will die from various reasons, be addicted to drugs or go to prison and most will work ordinary jobs and have families living ordinary lives.
If you can continue your education for at least four more years you may be the one that's known the world over. Best Wishes and Good Luck.

Answer 4

sit with whom you trust. that makes you feel truly comfortable. forget about the rest. you are making a big deal out of nothing. hopefully these cliques will approach you about it..tell them you choose who you want to be your friend. i wished i could give you a little back bone. don't be so fickle, enjoy your senior year. be a role model for those nasty mean girls. they are probably wishing there were more like you....