I am about to start a business with a man who has this so-called romantic notions on me. I told him to stop, but he persisted and even told me that its okey to flirt, as long as it's done after work hours and on weekends.
I am also attracted to him, but I don't want to ruin our professional/working relationship, thus I'm keeping it to myself.
We are both single and UNattached.
So what should I do? Must I set the rules?
What should be the business ethics here??
Thank you!
2006-12-31 01:51:03 · 10 answers · asked by Asian Cutie 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I would like to get more insights. Please do keep them coming...
Thanks!
2007-01-06 03:57:04 · update #1
Don't be afraid or disappointed. I see it as a wonderful opportunity for you both get deeper into a permanent relationship. But until then, you must be cautious and firm in decision making because that's where Power, Money, and Sex come into a significant role.
As a man he wants to have control on business and eventually you by default and conditioning. On the other hand you may be doing that to him depending on who is more aggressive and motivated to be greedy. He will be cautious in setting and/or approving rules because he has feelings for you. You will tend to do the same for him. But the whole sensitivity may fall apart where one's share of money and power is in jeopardy. " Ego goes in front of all decisions". You must do things and discuss and debate in such a way the egos are not hurt; if such happens and it becomes a habit, you can be sure your relationship will be over and you both will be in a legal battle of the worst kind because love and hate are two sides of the same coin. Make sure you both come agreement on things in such a way you both appreciate the decisions made. You also have to make sure that the other party doesn't get ideas or motivated to go behind you on things of importance so that you can avoid an impending conflict and betrayal of trust.
Good Luck and Happy New Year.
2006-12-31 02:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by stvenryn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The business should be the first priority. If you both feel the same way, why not agree to same ground rules (no signs of affection [a sly smile or wink is fine] during work hours; lunch together/ with others OK; dinner dates and weekends OK, etc.) to determine what impact the relationship has on the business.
You may also want to discuss the possibility of a breakup and what impact that would have on the business.
Many "office romances" work out well, especially where the partners have a stake in the business and the skill and ability of one compliments the other.
2006-12-31 07:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by PALADIN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest finding a different business partner for two reasons...
1. He doesn't respect you enough to stop when you tell him.
2. If it leads to a relationship, which isn't 110% of what you both expect, your business will falter.
With all the challenges of starting a new business, there's no place or time for flirting.
2006-12-31 02:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ketel One Up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to make a decision and be willing to stay with it. Look at it this way,
Are you comfortable bringing your work home with you? i.e. bringing it into the bedroom? breakfast? dinner? while you're trying to go to sleep?
Are you comfortable bringing your personal life to work? i.e.:
While in a meeting getting a wink from across the room? having your morning recreational romp become a topic of conversation @ breaktime?
But more seriously some of the greatest relationships are those that overcome the greatest of obstacles. This is really in your court and not something to be taken lightly.
2007-01-06 02:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by patty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you find out something new everyday. I didn't know that. I knew that we get a lot of our oil from Saudi Arabia, that Osama bin Ladens family comes from there. The Bushes like most if not all oil and gas producers have brought oil from them. Would you like to ride a bike to work,sit in the dark and do without air conditioning or do you want oil producers in the United States to deal with his family?
2016-03-13 23:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! you must set the rules! Also bear in mind that if it turns into a "serious" thing, and you guys happen to break up, you will have a strained business relationship; not good
2006-12-31 02:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Echo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's OK.Don't make things so complicated.Just treat them as you would anyone you met outside of work!
2006-12-31 02:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by grumpyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
business ethics do not bar off-line on-line romance and flirting.
2006-12-31 01:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Seagull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your call. Your an adult. If you are compatible let it happen. Sex will definitely change the dynamics of you partnership.
2006-12-31 02:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Samaritan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We are both single and UNattached."
then.... why not??
2006-12-31 02:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by VAVAV 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋