Here is my situation...I have this friend who I have known since high school. Me and her are always hanging out and riding around constantlty together. She has told me on a few occasions that she does have a boyfriend eventhough I never asked her. What I dont get is that if she has a boyfriend shouldn't she be spending more time with him? I mean I would be heated if my girl was riding around and hanging with another dude multiple times during the week. Now I'm not saying that you can't have buddies and a relationship too but when you are spending more time with your buddies than your partner then I find that a little strange. I guess what I'm asking is should I limit my time with her out of respect for her boyfriend because I really dont view her as a potential girlfriend to me.
2006-12-31 01:31:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to her about it. If y'all are really good friends there shouldn't be anything you can't discuss. Ask her why she spends more time with you than him and let her know if the situation were turned around, you'd rather spend time with your girlfriend than a girl buddy...or perhaps include your girlfriend in activities with your male and/or female buddies.
Apparently she's either not really into the guy she's dating, or his schedule doesn't allow them a lot of time together. She does need to understand though that it's only friendship you desire with her, so if there's any chance she's hanging with you, thinking something romantic could develop, the possibility just isn't there.
Yeah, it's okay to be friends with a chick who has a boyfriend and it's okay to spend time together on occasion...but several times a week is a bit odd and would lead to the assumption that she's not being much of a girlfriend to the guy she's dating.
2006-12-31 01:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is involved in a long distance relationship, which would explain why she's hanging out with you more than her BF. She also might not really have a BF but just be trying to get a reaction out of you because she might want more than friendship with you.
Nevertheless, if you have been friends for a long time and it feels good to hang out with her, and you have no ulterior motive, you have nothing to worry about. You don't know this other man, you don't owe it to him to sacrifice a good friendship for him. She is responsible for her own behaviors. If you think SHE has ulterior motives with you, then you should question things between you and her.
2006-12-31 09:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's like this. Yeah you need to be respectful to her bf but I would ask him if he minds that ya'll hang out so much and explain to him that ya'll have been friends for a while and that's all it is but 1st I would talk to your friend and make sure that she really wants to be with this dude cause it seems to me that she is more interested in u than him but by confronting the dude that might gain u alot of respect in the long run. Give respect and u will receive respect.
2006-12-31 09:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by lexigurl1211 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right idea, be careful that this situation doesnt come back to bite you on the butt, suggest that you make her your own, or get away from her asap, three way relationships are like a bomb with the fuse burning , its only a matter of time before you get hurt. the remaining question is how badly do you want to get hurt if you decide to keep her, is your pal that much attached to her?
2006-12-31 09:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by robert r 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE SOUNDS LIKE A HOE
2006-12-31 09:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋