involved in car crash 4 years ago, spent total of 7 weeks in hospital after and had chest drain inserted and told my pain would be kept to a minimum. it wasn't as halfway through the anasthetic could not work for some reason or other.had 8 broken ribs as well and pain was immense so i made a hell of a row. next day a nurse asked if it was me who made all the noise in A+E etc. said yes and she haughtily replied that an 80 year old woman had a chest drain and never made a noise. it has bothered me greatly ever since that i was a right wimp and it keeps coming into my mind and bothering me.
2006-12-31 01:24:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Injuries
The first thing that jumps out here is the nurse's question and reply. Seems like she/he was out of line making the comment about a fellow patient. Everyone handles pain differently and in addition, did the 80 y/o woman have 8 broken ribs? Probably not. Some people choose to suffer in silence. You should let it go. . . . .btw, what is "niggling"?
2006-12-31 01:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ma Faw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if your bodily systems were normal and working properly. Our bodies are designed to signal us if damage is being done, and that signal is pain. Don't be ashamed of your body when it was working just as it was designed to.
Secondly, the nurse may have even been lying about the 80 year old woman's reaction. Or the 80 year old woman may have been suffering a lot of pain also but been unable to respond, perhaps was even comatose. Maybe there wasn't even an 80 year old woman at all; the nurse might have made the whole thing up.
One thing is for certain, that person should not be a nurse. She sounds hateful, unprofessional and a bit cruel.
I do not believe for a second that you are a wimp. I believe you responded normally to the situation. The 80 year old woman (if there really was one) did not respond normally.
If it weren't so long ago, I would suggest you report the nurse to her supervisor.
2006-12-31 01:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by lifeisagift 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That 'nurse' had no business being in the medical profession! You were in pain from those ribs and that chest drain couldn't have helped. Being a wimp had nothing to do with it.
Have you tried keeping a journal? Sometimes that helps with working issues out.
I wouldn't blame you for not trusting medical people now. But you might benefit from counseling.
Good luck.
2006-12-31 01:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bah! some people just don't understand that pain and pain respoonses differ greatly from one patient to the next. Although as a nurse, she should have, comparing you to an 80 year old woman who was probably drugged half out of her mind doesn't make a lot of sense. Then again maybe it was just her inappropriate way of trying to shut you up. Either way, she should have taken more interest in making you comfortable not in putting you down.
2006-12-31 01:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nurse should not have made those remarks.
Every person's tolerance of pain is different. You should not give that incident a 2nd thought! YOU and YOUR body reacted just as well as YOU could in the circumstances.
I'm sorry you went through all that. But, please, don't think of yourself as a wimp. Guarantee ya, if that nurse had what you had, she might yell out too!!
2006-12-31 01:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lifesnadir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years ago? Time to move on and forget.
2006-12-31 08:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋