I went out with a guy for about two months.in 2004. Then after that on and off he kept texing me. Then he started borrowing money off me. Upto now he owes me thousands of pounds. which I dont think Ill get back. He seems to be playing some kind of game with my mind and maybe he doesnt realises he is doing it.
I went to citerzans advice to see where I stood. Their advice was wrie him a leter and see if he replys tto that which he did via a txt message. If he didnt answer it I should get a solicitors letter. he got in touch with me mid Week before christmas. He phoned me asked me what I was up to and even asked me if i still look the same. What is he upto. He even had the nerve to tell me his got a girlfriend. And the reason he wants to see me is that he has a conscience. If his got a girl friend how can he have a conscience then have the nerve to think I should let him see me? Whats he upto?
2006-12-31 01:21:53 · 24 answers · asked by Hybrid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He admitted he borrowed money.
I had sent him an official letter asking for my Money back in September. He replied with a txt message then I only recently heard from him week before christmas.
He knows I have just moved into a rented flat. Which was why he was asking to see me
I think his messed up and trying to mess me up.
He has written an outline of when he wanted to pay me back which he alone signed but there are no witnesses though I do have some txt msgs with his account number.
He treated me like ****. I think he is seeing if the water is still warm shuld he ever need some more money.
Im going to citerzans advice wednesday I want this thing over ASAP. I think he needs to see I m willing to take action. Wether he has a girlfriend or just lying
2006-12-31 02:57:24 · update #1
Plus he dropped in a txt conversation, dont worry i'm not looking to become a permenat fixture in you life. i already have a GF I just wanted to how you are
2006-12-31 03:02:40 · update #2
latest is that I sent him an official letter highlightiing the fact that he has breched the contract. yesterday 30th December 2006 he text me today telling me he doesnt see why I dont phone him. and that apperntly I know his situation he hasn got a job. I'm not surprised he probably robbed one of his clients. I'm teling you he is mad. and trying to take me down with him. There were times when I used to phone him in the past hed never pick up. Why does he think I wont phone and would rather send letters plus I can photocopy them easily also. If he has no job I dont think O can get blood out of a stone.
2006-12-31 05:57:55 · update #3
maybe he wants to pay back the money he owes--that was probably what he was talking about ==when he said he has a conscience.
2006-12-31 01:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Get rid of him our of your life as he will continually mess with your mind, don't think he doesn't know what he's doing because he does.
Delete his number from your phone, change your number, get rid of any contact details you have for him and start a fresh! You probably will never get this money back (unless you had a signed agreement between you both and if this is the case then you need to contact a solicitor, if nothing was signed between you both then he has no legal obligation to give you the money back im afraid)
You should of followed citizens advice properly by sending him a formal letter, as a text isnt very formal or doesnt come across very important
you don't need him and you can do a lot better! there was obviously nothing special between you both as it only lasted a few months, he's just walking all over you! And as he's done it once he's probably thinking he can do it again.
If a man borrows money from you, and doesnt pay you back, this guy has no respect for you and therefore is not worth a minute of your time. Dont let him come to see you, ignore any form of contact from him.
If you really think there is something there between you and him, tell him you want all the money back you lent him and tell him only then will you reconsider your situation with him. personally if it was me i wouldnt be so naive as to let this man keep in contact with me, he isnt a real man!!!!!!
Ignore things like 'hes saying he wants to meet up with you because he wants to repay you' if this was the case he wouldnt ask what you were up to and if you looked the same, it would be something along the lines of 'when are you free to meet up so i can repay the money' or 'i will send you a cheque' And as you to should only be discussing how is going to repay you then he had no need to mention his girlfriend, and he didnt even mention the money issue to you....hes playing you!!!!
And as its then end of the year its a perfect time to turn a new page.
2006-12-31 01:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Becci 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a money grabbing womaniser to me. I dont know why we let these weasles get away with it. You probably wont get the money back without a fight and the reason why he persists is because he doesn't care what hes done not ebcause he has a conscience because if he had one the first and decent thing he could and would have done would be an apology followed by some of the money back.
To hell with the loser, he doesnt have any respect for you.
2006-12-31 01:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by Scatty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, even though you guys are now talking, don't lend him any more money!! He thinks he's got a little piggy bank to dig into everytime he's low on cash! The only reason he wants to see you is because he's probably broke. And I'm sure he doesn't have a girlfriend coz he sounds like a huge loser! Stay away from him!
2006-12-31 01:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's basically just using you for financial gain. He keeps asking your for pounds because you continue to give it to him. You need strong and stand up for yourself. Never let a man use you because in the end he'll hurt your feelings. He's already informed you that he has a new girlfriend. Just let him go no matter how hard it may be. It's a new year so go find a new man who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
2006-12-31 01:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by demlimbas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he nevertheless likes you and has no longer have been given over you. And besides the undeniable fact which you would be able to desire to no longer decide directly to hearken to it in a fashion you're nevertheless encouraging him to be that way with you, lending him funds and not soliciting for it lower back, additionally protecting in touch with him. a number of those movements will make him experience which you nevertheless like him and tht perhaps he has a wager with you lower back, in case you dont decide directly to work out him then you definately could desire to be assertive with him, tell him directly and tell him you pick all the money lower back in case you do. He desires to appreciate precisely the place he stands!
2016-10-28 19:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am understanding the situation correctly, he owes you money, you sought advice on how to get him to repay you, requested he repay you and he phoned you afterwards to try to set up a time to tell you he wants to meet, but also is telling you he has a girlfriend.
It sounds like he is trying to meet up with you now because he owes you money and doesn't want you to sue him for it, most likely because he doesn't want his girlfriend to find out what a user loser he is. His goal isn't to get back with you, or he would not have mentioned he has a girlfriend; it would seem his goal in a meeting in person will try to tug at your heartstrings and talk you out of pursuing him paying you back.
If you are truly just trying to get your money back, it would be best to just stick to that issue and it would not be necessary for you meet him in person if you did not want to; it could all be handled over the phone, followed up my written documentation of any repayment agreement that is agreed to over the phone.
2006-12-31 01:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
RUN FAST why wouldnt he..you let him borrow money, you respond to his inquiries..He sees a free ride. Find someone more desreving that thinks of you instead of you being the giver all the time...Once you start doing it all thats how the road is set...its give and take
2006-12-31 01:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, he realizes what he's doing all right. He's USING you, and playing you for his bank. He tells you about his girlfriend, yet wants to see you????? Take him to court, get your money, and lose any memory you ever had of this guy. He is BAD news!!
2006-12-31 01:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to wriggle out of debt by the sound of it. Sue him and get your money back then move on love xxxx
2006-12-31 01:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my gal one answer i have for you is this your a MUG!!!!
How the hell do you date someone for only two months and end of giving them so much money read my questions you sound like you need to be with my partner going to be ex.....in life its literally dog eat dog...so watch your bowl next time love
i am guessing your black and so is he as he sound it i know what seem racist i am mixed race aond i know people will rate this bad but inless your black and have dated black men you wont understand why i said that
2007-01-07 16:46:05 · answer #11 · answered by MissTee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋