i have been going out with this guy for just over 2 months now, we get along really well and he even told me he loved me and i said it back. christmas night he came over to mine so we could exchange presents and he slept over. the next day he went home and said he may be coming back to mine as i had famly over, but he sed he tet me and let me know...9pm came and no reply...he was out with mates. i didnt hear from him all the next day or the day after, but when i finally saw him he sed he was rly sry and had left his phone at his mates. we spent about half an hour together unti i had to go, i havent seen him since thursday and he said he was coming over to mine last night, never showed up and didnt txt me back. my mate says he just needs space, wereas my mum says he's blowing me off. i realy like him and don't want to lose him. any advice on what to do would be greatly appreciated.
2006-12-31 00:17:15 · 25 answers · asked by jessyca o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just to let you all know i didnt have sex with him. nd he's never tried to push me into it either. its just all out of the blue cos christmas day he was fine.
2006-12-31 00:52:32 · update #1
ignore him. play it cool. don't let him stay over again until he is a more committal. i am guessing there is someone else involved. he is going to have to choose.
2006-12-31 00:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've been letting him call all the shots. Telling you when he'll see you. Yes, he's blowing you off. He only needs you when his mates are too busy to hang out with him. It's not that he's a bad guy necessarily, he's just not ready for what you want in a relationship. He can give you sex and a little attention (when he feels like it), but that's all. If you're looking for something a little more substantial than that, I'd say move on. Don't end up being a "friend with benefits" either. That never works out for long. Good luck.
2006-12-31 08:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's just having a good time with you whenever he needs it and you are available. If he does not reply, commit to meetings, stick to schedules or let you know when and where then the promises or words he says are just empty blow-offs to keep you pleased and quiet.---just a way to enjoy the fun with least complications. He really does not seem worth it as you deserve more in terms of honesty, sincerity and attitude. Don't you think so?
2006-12-31 08:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your mate says is true. May be he just needs time off. Moms and dads make our partner's nervous. May be he is in love with what you are when you are with him. He must be thinking of a lot more questions coming from your mom about him spending the night and the consequences which may lead to the scary words "marriage".
If you are old enough to handle a time off. Good. Otherwise learn that time off is good for a relationship and makes you understand the strength of it.
I am sure he will come back to you once your family is off to theirs. If it prolongs, then you can have a calm, quite and mature talk with him and understand the situation.
2006-12-31 08:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Josephene 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is getting more serious than he anticipated, so in order to maintain control over the relationship, he is backing off to try to manage the relationship according to "his terms".
I think sleeping with him too early, much or soon may have been a mistake. Why should he have to buy the cow when he gets the milk for free? (Just something to think about).
2006-12-31 08:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by americansneedtowakeup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's found someone new. I'd leave him alone, not call him for a 3-4 days, that will give him space in case that's the only problem, if he doesn't call you you've got your answer. After that if you want just ask him what's up.
2006-12-31 08:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by GreyGHost29 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mamma is right You can't loose him because you never had him. I only hope you did not sleep with him. It sounds like you might have and if so, he got what he wanted and now he is moving on. You should too. Hope you put it in a bag first so you don't have any unwanted little mommentos popping up.
2006-12-31 08:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's blowing you off, He will be back for sex and only that. It's the way guys are these days and women are so gullible it's just funny.
Yep, guys have learned from the women over the years, looks promising for future generations.
2006-12-31 08:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he slept over, meaning you two had sex that's apparently all he wanted. At the very least he can't keep promises and is inconsiderate. Move on to a guy who at least doesn't walk on all fours.
2006-12-31 08:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mum is right, talk to this guy and ask him if he's having second thoughts about being with you. If he's any kind of man he will tell you the truth even if that means hurting, You deserve an honest straight answer from him.
2006-12-31 08:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a great time of year to try to "mend fences", IF your mother's right. Have a New Year's costume party, and invite him. ANYTHING goes. Everybody has to BYOB, if they want it. The agreement is everybody leaves sober enough to drive themselves back where they came from. No cabs. You furnish the grub and any entertainment (movies, games, tv.). Good luck! I hope everything works out for you, and Happy New Year!
2006-12-31 08:25:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋