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Question

I asked a question earlier this week. My boyfriend went back and slept with his old girlfriend. What I did not metion was that I am an alcoholic. He had back surgery and I wasn't that nice. I figured If I couldn't drink then he didn't need to take his pain medication. I have been sick for a long time. Battling depression, bipolor disorder and alcoholism. So I really wasn't being myself. I haven't drank anything for a fee weeks and I am going to rehab. But my question is Was it ok for him to run back and sleep with his old girl friend. He seems to think it is just fine. I drove him to it. He really don't think is a big deal. But it hurts me badly. My alcoholism is a sickness. His is to me just an excuse to see this other person. What to do.

Answer 1

Nope lose him, all guys try to make it seem like its your fault. You will do better with out him!

Answer 2

I don't believe in this term Bi Polor ,,,,, I think it's a cop out ,,,, And what people do in their life is up to the individual ,,,,, It all depends on what he wants in life and how bad he wants it ,,,, You have a bad case of self pity and you love laying around and wollow in it ,,,,, As for what your boyfriend did ,,,, I don't blame him ,,,, I mean stand if front of a full length mirror and take a good look at yourself and make up your own mind as to why he did it ,,,,, You need to get a life instead of trying to sob on every ones shoulders ,,,, Your alcoholism is a sick ness true but quit looking to other people to do something about it ,,,, and quit using it as an excuse ,,,, Figure out what you want in life and muster the determination to go after it no matter what you have to do ,,,,,, You are at the end of a dead end street and pointed the wrong direction and going no where fast and the only one that can straighten you out is you ,,,,, Forget your self pity long enough to do some thinking ,,,,,,

Answer 3

You might concentrate on cleaning up your own act before you start worrying about what he did.

If you were not quite there when he needed your help why would you even question why he is not and does something like cheat.
You might think about taking the reins on your life and quit making excuses including bipolar and alcoholism as illness. We all know they are illnesses. Thats what treatment is for. Get the treatment, change your life, find out if he wants to start again and move on.
You really do not have the right to question him based on your treatment of him. You need to get rid of the what life, him, them, alcohol, bipolar etc. did to me attitude.

Answer 4

I think you both did the wrong thing ! The only difference really was that his was just an excuse to do the wrong thing and yours was caused by your illness. You had no right to decide whether or not he should take his medication but that did certainly not make his cheating on you ok !! You are in rehab and that is great. Now he has to decide about what he did wrong and what he is prepared to do to make it right. Good luck

Answer 5

You have serious problems that caused you to hurt someone you really care about. There seems to be intent on your part but not malice. However, your boyfriend hand intent with malice; he intended to sleep with her to cause you harm.

If he can't deal with your problems or even help you then he needs to move on. You should tell him to move on because more than likely this will be an ever occurring cycle until you get a handle on your issues. At least take some time apart until you make some progress healing.

Answer 6

Hi Laashly!!!

Please do him and yourself a favor, LET GO!!! Seriously, at this time youshouldn't even be thinking about, any kind of relationship with anyone.

If you can't figure youreself out at this point, how come you are expecting someone else to do it for you??? Sweetie, I know I might sound a bit harsh, but is the truth.

Unless you take care of yourself, go and finsh your rehab. come back clean and commit yoursel to YOU!!! You are NOT ready for any body else!!!

As you said it, the need of meds. and professional help should be your main concern right now. If you keep putting someone before you, you will never feel better.

Don't go back with this guy, he is sik too!!! And honey, as harsh as it sounds, two wrongs DO NOT MAKE A RIGHT!!!
I have to give you props. for telling the difficulties and health problems you are going through. But sweetheart, this is NOT the time to think about any body else but you.

AFTER you come out clean and sober, take some time for yourself, and embrace your accomplishments, be proud and love yourself. Pretty soon you'l see(if you don't go back to the old ways), that you will find someone that trully cares for you.

Try NOT to go and hang out in bars, or drug related places. This only will make YOUR situation worst. Isn't it time to think seriously about loving and respecting yourself, so others can do the same??? Think about it!!! Learn something new!!!

After coming back from rehab. make some friends, surround yourself with positive people, who can help you mantain
your higher and better quality of life. DO NOT settle for less.

Start goin to church, pray and take your faith seriously. Start a relationship with GOD, and think of HIM as the ONLY ONE you ever need in your life!!! Because this is the truth!!!
Make this your NEW YEAR resolution!!!!
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!!

HAPPY NEW LIFE!!!

ALLIV Z

Answer 7

Get your self help first and fore most. You are your self you were drunk and that was you, If you stay drunk you are a drunk. Denial and excuses not even magical thinking will help . You are a master at them. But the hope is you can make different choice and your life can change. Then you will be a different "your self". Your boy friend is not very mature even thou I understand how difficult it is. living with a drunk. Realize you need help to stop drinking you can't do it alone. AA is a good program

Answer 8

You responded your own question, YOU DROVE HIM TO IT. hey, alcoholism isn't a sickness, I drank always for 17 years and in no way missed an afternoon. i have not had a drink in 5 years all because i determined now to not drink any extra.

Answer 9

Why are you asking this question three times in a row?

Answer 10

you might be an alcholic but dont use it as an excuse ,your boyfriend was looking for some sympathy he didnt get it so he jumps into bed with his x,move on girl send him back ,bad back and all ,

Answer 11

FIRST of all you need to live 4 your self. GET your proper help. FOCUS on your self. THIS man will continue to do that. YOU need to get your life straight.THINK of you. IF YOU DONT HE WILL continue to hurt you and make you drink. TRUST me no man is worth it.