Do ugly people find other ugly people attractive?

Question

And before you start, I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that, and some people say that beauty comes from the inside. but seriously there are some ugly people out there.

I seriously want to know if the human brain can sense that they are not the best looking so lowers its standards when looking for a mate??????

I was asking a serious question, I knew a f u k wit like 0REOliCi0 would give an answer like that.

Answer 1

i think the brain does lower its standards to get someone that would be best suited to them. i dont hink they do it to degrade themselves but you have to be realistic when looking for someone.

Answer 2

People who are unattractive have the same eye for beauty that anyone else does.

It is said, though, that there is a tendency for people to match up with people of "equal league" to them; so I'm imagining that the unattractive person must see how attractive someone else is but feel that person is for someone else. (Of course, this doesn't hold when people know each other well and get to care about one another.)

Just a note: I don't really think there are all that many ugly people in the world. There are people who don't do what it takes to make the most of their appearance, which makes them look unattractive; and there are people with average faces that have the best make-up and clothes and hair and kind of fool people into thinking they're more beautiful than others - but I don't think there are all that many truly, hopelessly, ugly, people.

There's probably a lot of average-looking people, and their looks can go either way, depending on what they are willing and/or able to do to look their best. Maybe what happens is that people who don't do all it takes to look their most attractive are attracted to others who have similiar values (rather than to someone who is willing to spend big time, energy, and money on his appearance).

I don't think there needs to be any "sensing" in the brain when it comes to what people look like. I pretty much think they can look in the mirror for every day of their lives and have a pretty good idea of whether they're beautiful, average, or less.

Answer 3

What attracts people to others is fairly complex and subjective. As an unattractive person myself I just gave up even trying to have dating relationships pretty early in life. I can definitely understand that I am unattractive and lower my standards. Many people however have a difficult time doing that which is okay too.I really do find skinny, kinda nerdy girls more attractive and realistic for me, and I do feel more drawn to someone I could see as realistic. To be correct I don't think others should be called ugly, some are just less physically attractive.

Answer 4

What is beauty? Society says that beauty is certain things. We can agree on that. But the brain is not dependent on what "society says." The brain will look for features that it senses to be attractive. You take a person with certain features and more often than not they are going to find similar features attractive. In addition, they may not find the features "society" says are attractive attractive at all. For example, I've seen some actors that are "hot" and thought to myself, "I don't think so." I don't agree with your conclusion that it is a "lowering of its standards when looking for a mate," to chose someone who is "ugly." Ugly is just as subjective as beauty. Some guys think beauty is a tall, thin, blue-eyed blonde, but my dh does not--I'm petite with black hair and eyes and he always prefered--found beauty in girls with similar features to mine. I've noticed that many of the men I find attractive have similar features as well, so there must be some hardwiring in the brain that steers us toward certain people and their "attractiveness" to us.

There was a study done with women and it dealt with what they found attractive in men and what they found attractive in men varied according to their menstrual cycle--they liked more manly looking men when they were the most fertile and liked softer features when they weren't. Also, another study dealt with whether or not women could see a man and decide whether or not he would be a good mate to have children with---they were trying to see if a man's features gave any clues as to whether or not he was interested in being a father. In the study, the majority of women chose men with softer features.

I do think that the brain very much decides attraction. Animals have ways in which they chose mates and humans do too--we just may not understand them all very well at this point in time. Sure, we would like to think that we control everything we do--and in a way we do, but in a way we don't, our brain--its degree of evolution--its dna--everything about it biologically does. :)

Answer 5

We tend to call people ugly, only because of preconceived notions of form and symmetry. From a psychological point of view,each person should be judged with one's personal endowments in physique. Ever tried to compare the shapes of trees, or birds or the way one performs in life? Hoe would you rate the beauty of a Mahatma Gandhi or a Socrates. I think that all creation is piece of perfect art if only we it in that light.

Answer 6

good question, I don't think there are many ugly people who see themselves as truly ugly. We all see deception in the mirror. But I guess that if you have been unsuccessful in finding a mate then you do lower your standards of beauty. I suppose thre are many women in their 30s, whose biological clock is ticking and want a child before it is too late, who put looks to one side and look for inner qualities instead. And then look at people who marry in their seventies .... they don't consider the lines and wrinkles and flabby bits as important and concentrate on the companionship and caring.
So, yes, you have a point ... I think you want beautiy when you are young but when you are getting desperate then you blind your eyes to this.

Answer 7

Unattractive and older women are constantly hitting on me and even semi attractive women wont even give me a second look. I might have an ugly personality maybe. To answer your question I am attracted to women who might be over weight or 20 yrs older than me. I'm 24 and wouldn't consider myself unattractive though.

Answer 8

Again, I would agree with the argument that beuty is in the eye of the beholder and that everyone has their own perception of not just themselves but also their partners. For instance, my friends are with guys who I wouldn't necessarily think of as absolutely stunning but the importnat thing is that they are to them. We were having a conversation last night about rating ourselves and rating our partners. My friend came up with a quote which I pretty much think sums it up as "to me he's an 8, but probably not to the rest of the world." So as long as there's attraction between the two of you initially that should be enough, regardless of a third party's opinion of your relative attractiveness. Also, we're genetically programme to look for people who are similar to ourselves in order to maintain important characterisitics but not too similar to prevent inbreeding and consaguinous relationships. Therefore, there probably is an element of going for people who are a similar level of physical attractiveness but to be honest, your partner's personality is far far more important.

Answer 9

Some visually beautiful people turn out to be ugly people personality-wise, so how do you define "ugly"? Nobody is perfect and people generally should be less critical of others.

Answer 10

I feel no one on this earth we are is ugly. Yea they maybe ugly when it comes to the physical nonsense but to tell you the truth if yoy are looking for the most ugliest person i think you should go for OSAMA BIN LADEN. See let me let you know this ugliness comes from the heart and not facial looks.

Answer 11

No.

well it depends on that persons psychological state..
For example if someone feels ugly, and they come in contact with someone they view as ugly as they view them self, they would in many cases find the other person unattractive even repulsive because it reminds them of their own insecurity with their own perceived ugliness.