i m so passimist in my life everytime i think abt it .i have insecurity,jellous and many more things which i want to destroy in this year pls help me out.
2006-12-29 21:27:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Dont think of yourself as a pessimist, for one.
Think of these attributes as being "cautious" and "observant"
When you do not plunge immediately into things that honestly requires good decision making, that is your survival instincts in play. The only thing to change is your demeanor, keep on smiling, Be friendly.
2006-12-29 21:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of running away from feelings of insecurity and jealously, I believe you need to explore WHY you are feeling such emotions. Your emotions are either trying to tell you something or teach you something about yourself. Feelings associated w/ being pessimistic aren't necessarily bad b/c having doubt is better in certain situations than being overly optimistic.
You need to accept that ALL emotions are normal and that it's okay to feel a certain way. However, just b/c you feel it doesn't mean you have to act on it b/c feelings come and go like waves in the ocean. One minute you feel frustrated b/c you don't know how to do a homework problem, than once you figure it out you feel smart and proud to have understood it.
Case in point, everyone can feel jealous, but not all act on it, mostly b/c they talk themselves through it and come to the conclusion that it's unreasonable and unproductive.
Also, at certain points in your life certain emotions are more prevalent than others and it may just be that you are going through hormonal changes and things are confusing b/c of it.
Accept yourself for the complicated, wonderful person that you are and do some soul searching when a feeling comes up that you don't like...reason w/ yourself and always remember that feelings come and go, it doesn't define who you are!
2006-12-30 06:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should be in a 12 step program, ya know. If you dig deep into them there is so much psychoanalysis and psychotherapy in the 4th step. Many people even in the program don't go that deep.
You need to learn to be centered in yourself. That doesn't mean being self centered.
You need to find out what or who is pulling you down. Could be somebody in your past. You gotta confront it.
Are you an elephant who wants to fly? Unrealistic goals.
Make your goals a self fulfilling prophesy. Positive attitude. Don't you hate that? It means being phony, huh? Well, you have to be your own role model now. This is therapy.
Realize that you are ill in some way and you need help. You can't do it by yourself.
2006-12-30 05:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Russell W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A counselor once told me that some naturally pessimistic people need to just train themselves to be more optimistic. He said to set aside 5 minutes every morning, and 5 minutes every evening, and stand in front of a mirror, and just say positive things to yourself, about yourself, for 5 minutes straight. He said it doesn't matter if you don't feel or believe the things you are telling yourself. That over time, your thoughts will become naturally more positive, and you will have to force yourself to think positivally less and less, not just about yourself, but about other people, things, and life in general. I tried this, and it really does work. Give it a try for a few weeks and see if it makes a difference. Good luck!
2006-12-30 05:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to do is to learn to love yourself. The reason why you have these insecurities, jealousies and negative thoughts is because you yourself do not appreciate who you are. Keep in mind that every person is unique from others.Look into a mirror and study yourself. Look for physical traits that you like in yourself. If you find even just one trait that you like in yourself, this means that you are a beautiful person. In order to appreciate other people, one must begin within oneself. When you have learned to appreciate yourself, you may be surprised to find out that you no longer feel insecure or jealous because you believe that you are a beautiful person, unique and different from others.
2006-12-30 05:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fake it till you make.
Force your self to think positivly, what ever it is imagine the best possible outcome instead of the worst.
Eventually it will become second nature, and you will be optimistic......keep it up and eventually only positive things will happen to you.
This is the secret all of the great thinkers and philosophers of our time have known.
2006-12-30 05:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋