What would you do?.......Especially if he had said they wernt together, in earlier conversations?......................Do I make a deal out of him lying?.......or just let it go because it was ........."before me"......?
2006-12-29 20:57:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let me clarify this...they were sexual pics............and i found them on a disc while looking for something else............Do I confront him?..................
2006-12-29 21:12:08 · update #1
Nicky, it's tough for a guy to admit to having had a sexual relationship with another woman...just as women seem to have the same trouble with guys. Unless you have lived 24/7 with your partner since they passed puberty, there's always a chance they have had a prior sexual relationship. So what? He's not with her now...he's with you. If someone else were more important than you, he'd be with her. Maybe he's ashamed of the relationship, maybe he feels (or felt) that you would think less of him if he acknowledged it, maybe anything. Remember, he's still with you, not her.
2006-12-29 22:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before jumping to any conclusions, you need to have a heart to heart chat with your partner. First find out who the woman is, then whether they were together etc. A photo with this woman does not mean that they were together. When you are with a person, it is very important to have a fair of idea of the person you are with and their past relationships, to a certain extent.
Yet again, past should not hinder the present and future. Therefore if the only negative that you find in your partner is this photograph, then maybe you are over-reacting. Take this from someone who has gone through this experience.
2006-12-30 05:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by P P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hadn't lied about it I'd say forget it. The lie has me wondering about it. Why lie if it was before you? I'd wonder if it is over between them. If you know the woman go talk to her,but, be friendly. Take the pics with you. Tell her you didn't think she'd want the pics seen by anyone. Then get her to open up to you. I'd get to the bottom of this. You need to know if you've made a mistake being with him.
2006-12-30 06:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 100% sure that it was before you then let it go. If you go looking for trouble in the past you are sure to find it in the present.Think to your self if you were Completely honest with him about your history.and would you want him making a big deal out of something you did way back when if it has nothing to do with rite now.
2006-12-30 10:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go looking, you will find trouble. You must know he had a dating history before you. It's in the past, he's with you now. Try to forget them and let it go. Making an issue of his lying about it just makes the whole thing bigger than it needs to be.
2006-12-30 05:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if it happened before you both met then its not really in your best interest to say anything to him,we all have pasts.
If you are the jealous type and you continue to go about this it may drive your boyfriend away,just put it down to his past and as long as he doesnt do those things behind your back then id let it go.
BUT
I would want to know why hes kept the disc
2006-12-30 05:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didnt want you to find you to find out because he must have been scared as to how you would react but this was before you and you shouldnt dwell on the past. The most important thing is that you are his girl now so LET IT GO.
2006-12-30 05:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by $ugar$ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would probably be upset and want to know why he lied? If he could answer that it might bring me some satisfaction. But in the end, He is with you now and let the past be the past. Men are sometimes special needs cases and we just have to let them be men as long as they respect the us and treat us good.
2006-12-30 05:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by joyofjoys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't worry about it, I once found pictures of another female when my now husband and I moved in together and he said it was his sister I didn't find out it was his ex until we were married and that was 7 years ago. Just count it as one strike and tell him not to get two... He may just be freaky and was scared to tell you the truth.
2006-12-30 05:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good is it going to do. Cause a nice argument, let everyone think you are hurt and the poor wife? Or be a human, except that he had a life before you. If you think there won't be lies in your marriage, think again.
2006-12-30 06:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋