If being gay isn't about sex. Then wouldn't you just be good friends. Instead of life partners.
2006-12-29 20:39:01 · 17 answers · asked by poopy pants 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You know, so many people are on this kick about how people may have the feeling but if they don't act on it, then they're not gay. And being gay or a lesbian is not all about sex. You're not straight only when you're having sex, right? I have gone through long periods of celibacy and, frankly, now that I'm older and have some health issues, sex has become fairly low on my list. But I'm still a dyke! I know from what I am abstaining! It like if you're not eating chocolate - you know you're not abstaining from carrots! And you know who you love.
2006-12-29 20:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by jane7 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
First off your insulting of your mother-in-law as "fat" is unnecessary and quite frankly RUDE!
Secondly: If being straight isn't just about sex than wouldn't you just be "good friends" instead of a married couple?
Being lesbian/gay life partners are about MORE than JUST sex, it's about love, compassion, trust, life long commitment. Yes, obviously it's also about being friends as well, but straight couples don't marry "just friends." Of course sex has is a PART of being a couple, but it's not the be all and end all of it.
Aren't straight couples also friends? Do straight couples marry platonic friends?
No, of course not.
So, we've established that straight couples are indeed friends, but that sex plays a very real role in their relationships. We've established this is the same criteria as with gay/lesbian couples as well. But the difference is that straight couples are allowed to legal wed and have their relationship recognized and protected by law, as gay/lesbian couples are not.
This is NOT equal, NOT constitutional and quite frankly RUDE, just as your calling your mother-in-law "fat" was!
2006-12-29 20:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is about many things... and sex is one of those things. Being straight is the same way (although some would argue that it is also all about sex due to the whole over-rated reproduction thing) and it isn't so much about labels, but the individuals. One gay man may be into monogamy and love while another may desire frequent trips to the bath house. I think sex palys only a part in being gay, straight, or bi... as there are other factors that get tied in.
That's my opinion though.
2006-12-29 21:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..fat lesbian mother in law..kinda harsh words..wonder what she calls u?..but thats besides the fact..if u and your str8 wife were still dating why did u get married?..so consider you and your wife..why did u tie the knott? instead of just being good f@ck buddies or just boyfriend and girlfriend?..it was making a commitment to each other... and just because you don't see a lifetime partnership as the same as marriage well there's no helping u there..for some who have been together almost twenty even thirty years and consider themselves lifetime partners who are faithful to each other forsaking all others and taking their relationship very seriously though good and bad in sickness and in health..it is the basic concept of a marriage without the ceremony involved..ohh and remember on thing..when u married your wife you wanted her to know that you were for her and ONLY her and she for ONLY you..in other words take her off the market so no other dude come's a knocking..same for lifetime partners..when they commit themselves to each other it is for life and no other women better step in and break-up a happy home..now would u see things differently if you and your wife were just friends and some guy comes calling her for a date and maybe one for the road?..with lifetime partners they are commited not to each other and therefore act as a married couple..just like you wouldn't want another man boinking your wife..well that mother-in-law of yours doesn't want another touching her woman aswell..just another way of looking at things..and by the way..just because she isn't a sexy lesbian doesn't mean her heart is not in the right place..I am sure you are not the same hot hunk you used to be when u hooked up with your wife..just like men who get comfortable in their own skin and grow that flab of a belly, grow a size or two in the buttocks..some lesbians are just comfortable to be in their own skin and if she has a life partner then her partner see's her beauty aswell..just as I am sure your wife see's through the baldness, chubby belly and everything else to the man she fell in love with..peace~
2006-12-29 23:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by Charmer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being gay is definitely not about sex, ok? I am bi, and sex is the furthest thing on my mind. AND I'm 18!!! you would think I would be in the prime of my sex-hungry years, but I'm not, so does that make me straight? I'm sorry, I still can find a guy at a movie theater hot, or be emotionally attracted to a bf. If you are claiming homosexuality is a purely physical (or emotional, even though you dont claim so) relatonship, youre wrong. It's a mix, just as straight relationships are, except for perverted testosteronal guys which I can imagine you are, being as homophobic as you are.
2006-12-29 20:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well your "fat lesbian mother-in-law" is correct, it isn't about sex. Although some of it is about sex, not all of it is, there's love, commitment, and all the other things that would be there in a heterosexual relationship.
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Dani_Kin, you are so ignorant I don't even know where to begin, first off everyone has a "SEXual orientation", or are you just to dumb to notice that? Your "SEXual orientation" is straight, man I have seen a lot of ignorant people on here, but by far you have to got to be the most ignorant of them all so far, if there was an ignorant of the year award, I would be nominating you. And there's no such thing as "relationshipal orientation or a luv orientation", and your sexual orientation has nothing to do with actual sex, its just a personal preference in which who are attracted to. And what is a "relationshipal" anyway?
And by saying "trying to explain gayness to very stupid people" that just put the icing on the cake, you hick, ignorant, bigot, hillbillies don't understand anything, so you are the "very stupid people". You and Cletus need to get out more & go back to school!
2006-12-29 20:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Drew 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Nope, you wouldn't. Being gay is about LOVE, not about sex, especially for women (sorry guys, luv ya!). You know how it is when you really love someone...you can't stop thinking about them, you want to make them happy, you want to see them every day. I mean, sure, gay people have sex with their partners...but please tell me, (obviously you're married) that your husband/wife/partner does more for you, besides give you sex, than just a good friend would do? Does s/he help pay your bills? Cook you dinner? Do your laundry? Snuggle with you in bed? Take care of you every time you're sick? That's why they call them LIFE partners, not SEX partners.
Being gay is about being attracted emotionally to someone, as well as physically and mentally. It is somewhat about sex...but not 100%, and I'd say that since women are wired for emotions, and men are wired for sex, that two women would have less sex than a man and a woman :)
2006-12-29 20:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Candy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not ALL about sex, but yes, sex is a part of it. Just like heterosexuality. Straight people who can get married don't choose to do so just because the sex with that one person is totally awesome. Why don't straight people just have friends instead of marrying and test-tubing all their children?
2006-12-30 17:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres more to life than just sex dont you think ??? thats pretty basic common sense hey ? love is what makes the world go round baby!!
probably what she meant was that being gay is not ONLY about the sex. It is an emotional preference also .....not even going into the politics of it
2006-12-29 21:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no regulation that asserts a lesbian can't marry a gay guy. So sure, they could be entitled to reward. inspite of the indisputable fact that, the reality of the challenge is that what might want to be the point of a gay guy and woman pretending to hitch the heterosexual way of existence? the full element of marriage is love, isn't it?
2016-12-01 08:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋