My father is paralized, mu mom is sick too. My husband is a passive and quiet man. The children are teenagers and hate this. We have done this once, and now we are forced to do it again. I'm afraid that I will become a boxing bag for them all, and I love them all. I'm afraid for my marriage, but the current finncial situation dictates so.
2006-12-29 20:35:25 · 9 answers · asked by Beatrice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to evaluate the situation and find out what is causing you to continually go through this same situation.
2006-12-29 20:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't please all the people all the time. You need to talk to your kids and explain the situation is temporary and you need their co-operation for the duration. I guess you must have other stuff to contend with as well. Can you get any help with care for your parents or is that not the issue? If they all try to make you a 'boxing bag' you must be firm and tell them you understand how they feel but you need to concentrate of getting you all out of there. You are not solely responsible for the situation, don't let anyone dump their issues on you. At least you've got a roof over your heads.
2006-12-29 20:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the only children? If you are, you are wholly responsible for taking care of them, and you can't whine at all. If not, ask your silblings for help. If they don't, settle between you and ur husband, don't push blames anymore. Your parents are't a toy.
You can't say you are FORCED to live with them. Are they forced to live with you when you are a baby? Of course not. Living with parents is joy, warmth, and happiness but it seems like you experience none of this. You are just being plain selfish. They are your parents who brought you to this world, brought you up, and what-so-ever.
My suggestion is get a private nurse to take care of their needs, but please don't send them to old folks home, as they will get lonely there. Maybe you will think that they don't appreciate at all, but they do, just don't have the ability to show it out due till their illness.
Discuss with your family, hope everyone goes well.
2006-12-29 20:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to explain to all the children surrounding you, that this is the way it is and they need to finger out how to deal with it. They are your parents and YOU are not leaving. I have a friend that was in somewhat the same situation. The sheriff needs to take back the town from the inmates. I told her this same th ing. It took her awhile to actually enact the plan but once she did, They all fell in place.
2006-12-29 20:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put them in the old age home, or convinve them that they are insane. Then call the dudes in the white suuits to take them away in the little yellow bus!
2006-12-29 20:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living in their house with your family...so, you have to deal with them! They are helping you out! You need to work 2 jobs and so does your husband so you can move out!!!
2006-12-29 20:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are afraid for everything, except your ill parents.
2006-12-29 20:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change a few things next time
2006-12-29 20:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want me to answer
2006-12-29 21:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by Vivin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋