I work with this girl, and ive known her for about a year and a half. not until the last couple months had i ever had feelings for her. We go to different schools and only see eachother during the summer ans some holidays... when were together all we can do is laugh our heads off... everyone says that were " so cute" lol... and that i should just ask her out.... but i've alreadt made an enemy , yes enemy out of a friendship i tried to take a little further then what it was. I think this is a different circumstance though, because we go to diffrerent schools, but im still cinfused on how to see if she would even be intrested in becoming more, or just being friends....
2006-12-29 20:22:55 · 15 answers · asked by BJAMIN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Give it a go, better do it so you could have some peace of mind, I know how it feels, you deserve to know how she feels and so does she, so boy take the plunge, she is worth every depth you will travel.
2006-12-29 20:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Patriot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes having a really good friend is better staying that way. I had a brilliant friend for 2 years and I thought the world of him. But we started to go out as b/f & g/f coz it felt right at the time. and although we were together for 5 months we broke up. Now we dont talk and I havent seen him again. I still feel sad about it all at times, as we had a really special friendship before we began a relationship, and we lost that. I guess the answer here is there is nothing to stop you asking her out and if its meant to be it will be, just be aware that sometimes it doesn't always work out from going from friendship to relationship. Good luck Hunni and I really do hope it works out for you.
2006-12-29 20:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go to different schools it might be kinda hard to see each other. But if you like her as much as you say you do then you'd make the effort. Ask for her number, even her email address and start from there. You need to get over the "other circumstance" and not let it get in the way of your feelings now. Good luck
2006-12-29 22:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Patzz :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sitting down and talking to her. be straight forward and tell her how u feel. say u just wanted to put everything out on the table and if she does not feel the same way , at least you tried. tell her u will always be her friend but u strongly believe you guys could go a lot further. u r never gonna know what will happen until u ask her, take the chance. and i hope it pays off
2007-01-01 12:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by maybesureok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing,just ask her if she has someone but do it like this:"so ,anthing new in your love life?" note that she would only answer if you are as close as you say you are and if she says no then ask her to imagine what it would be like if you two were together but like this:"well i feel really comfortable being around you more than anyone else and ive grown to like you alot but i want to know if you would be ok with us being friends or being together and i hope this wont change our friendship if you dont because i would always be the same person. jus think about it." This would guarantee that you get to keep her friendship. Just be yourself and memorize tha lines. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-29 20:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by $ugar$ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how patient you are:
if not: just ask but be prepared for the fallout. Start asking her what type of men she likes and then if she doesn't zero in on you you know without having to mess things up.
if you are: Find another woman/girl - this makes you look more attractive, it gives you social value and it'll make her wonder why you're not with her.
I'd recommend the quicker route out of the two just so you don't mess someone else around.
Good luck!
2006-12-29 20:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my point of view is it depends on how much you value your friendship because if it goes to the next level and doesnt work out it will never be the same again as friends. if you are confident then give it a go the decision is yours . good luck in your decision
2006-12-29 20:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Snot Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make a joke out of the relationship. like "You would never get a geogeous looking girl like you looking at an ugly lad like me" said in a joking way. then she may respond with "your not ugly" showing that she finds you attractive. but if she doesnt find you attractive she can just joke along with you and your friendship will remain intact.
2006-12-29 20:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her if she would like to be more than freinds but you have to accept her answer yes or no just live in hope in doesnt ruin freindshipwich is what normally happens very sad good luck been there drives you round the bend
2006-12-29 20:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by rabbit18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to find out and do go into something more as u say is to ask her out !
2006-12-29 20:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋