Cause everyone I've known who has dated a younger man ends up breaking up with him or getting a divorce, it happened to my parents, will it happen to me, I'm deeply concerned.
2006-12-29 18:18:04 · 32 answers · asked by morgana_tyler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is 4 years younger than me. We are getting ready to celebrate or 7th year of marriage. Age has nothing to do with it it love and personalilty, commuincation, trust and honesty. That is what makes a marriage or relationship work.
2006-12-29 18:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by bambii_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you reach adulthood, two or three years difference is NOTHING! (There's a huge difference between an 18-year-old young woman and a 15-year-old boy, for example....but the older everybody gets, the closer the gap becomes until it stops being a "gap" at all!).
Consider this too: women generally have a longer life expectancy than men, so marrying a younger man gives you an edge on spending more of your lives together.
Nobody bats an eye when someone like Michael Douglas marries Catherine Zeta-Jones (she is nearly 30 years younger than he is!). Why is it such a big deal when the age difference is the other way?
I never dated any guys who were more then a few years older than me tops, and, I ended up marrying a man almost exactly two years younger. We just celebrated our 30th anniversary.
You do NOT have to follow in your parents' footsteps. Learn from their mistakes.
2006-12-29 18:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the divorce rate at 52% why worry about a couple of years of age difference. Most marriages break up due to financial concerns. My best friend and his wife (also my long time friend) have been married since 1977 and he is 2 years younger than she....so at least in my opinion age difference...little concern.
Me...married to a lovely lady 2 years my junior and we were divorced 7 years ago after exactly 20 years of marriage. So what's a couple of years either way.
Advice is free so...you and your man make the decision and just keep working at your marriage.
Good luck.
2006-12-29 18:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by iraq51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age difference of not more than this is of no problem.
The problem is only in the relationship itself.
You are still both in the same generation so will have a lot of the same memories about things so that will not be a problem.
You should be more concerned about the man himself and how well you work together and not the age difference.
The other breakups had nothing what ever to do with age.
And there are many people who have very successfully marriages with even more of an age difference. So take heart and worry only about what he is like with you.
2006-12-29 19:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have been breaking up and divorcing since the beginning of time. It has absolutely nothing to do with their ages, and yes, it will probably happen to you because you're so "deeply concerned" about it that you will make it happen and then say "See, I knew it was a curse!" It's called a self-fulfilling prophecy, in case you're wondering.
2006-12-29 18:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Dating a man 2-3 years younger than you is not an automatic death sentence for your relationship. Men have married women younger than them by much greater defisites for years and also go through divorces. Its just a matter of finding the right person regardless of the age (provided they are legal age of consent)
2006-12-29 18:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 32 and my husband just turned 30 thursday. It depends on the maturity level of the man that is younger than you. Granted my hubby likes to play the PS3, he pays the bills and he cleans the house and takes care of me and the kids. He is a great provider and lover and I know we will be together for as long as God allows us to. Do not live your life through your parents. You dictate what happens in your life..It will happen to you if you let it.
2006-12-29 18:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by choco-vanilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't do what I did. I dated a man 20 years older then me and yes it was a H U G E M I S T A K E
2006-12-29 18:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by HEART 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every situation is different so dont think if it happened to my parents it will happen to me. Most women break up with younger boys because they are immature, but on the other hand i have found younger guys respect older women alot more because they teach them things ;o) not only sexual but how to pay bills and budget. life is too short to stress about these minor things just enjoy your man while you have him, you never know what tomorrow will bring.
2006-12-29 18:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet_Miss_Toni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just seems like a typical coinsidence (spelled wrong). Its just that women mature more than men so when the man is older usually it balances out however when he's younger it may seem that he is less mature than the female.
I don't think you should worry about it, don't let that get in your way. If its meant to be, so it shall.
2006-12-29 18:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Allan McDaniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋