13 and pregnant!?

Question

how do i tell my mom?
what to do with the baby?
how do i take care of it?
what should i name it?
I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
im scared seriousley

Answer 1

Sweetheart, first of all, you don´t beat yourself up over it.. You should have been more careful, yes, but it´s done! Now you have to look foward. I have a daughter that is just one year younger than you. I have to say I would be in total shock if she came home pregnant. However, she is still my daughter and I would give her all my love and support. I would want her to know that I am there for her, that I love her besides her mistakes. I am sure your mom will be there for you, as well.. Just be honest with her.. And tell her what i told you. That you know it was wrong, and you should have been careful, but it´s already happened and you need her. You need her..Those decisions you´re asking advice about, she´ll be more likely to help you than us here... Just let her know how much you need her right now -- even though, as a mom, I know she will realize that...
And don´t beat yourself too much over it. Just look from now on and deal with it the most mature way you can.. you are in my prayers.. Good luck, sweetie!

Answer 2

Well considering you posted this three times.. you've had sex already at the age of THIRTEEN, and one of the biggest worries in your life right now is WHAT SHOULD I NAME IT? You are obviously an attention w.hore.

What I mean by this is, whether or not you're pregnant you want to be noticed. You probably role play alot.. you've probably told complete strangers you've attempted suicide, you just want people to see you and care. That's probably why you had sex in the first place..

Well here's a little advice, we all can be an attention w.hore sometimes.. but try to get your life back on track and realize it doesn't matter what other people think.. what matters is what you think. To have so many people 'pray' for you in this moment and forget you the next is so unfufilling.. confide in a good friend, or get a good boyfriend, because someday people are going to realize you're fake and you and your child will be all alone in the world. I would keep it if I were you.. you're going to need some company in the stagnant existence that you're doomed to fall unto. Change your ways dear.. Trust me.. ditch the computer, messenger, and myspace. Reconnect to the real world.

Make something of yourself. Love yourself. Leave the drama and enjoy the sky whatever the weather may be.

Answer 3

You tell your mom (or trusted adult) like you're ripping off a band-aid - just get it out in the open and then the conversation will flow. She may be upset at first but you're her little girl and she will support you in whatever way she knows how.

You're so young - you have so much to learn and so much life to live. You really need to think about your options (your mom can discuss this with you too) and decide what the best decision will be for you.

Taking care of a baby is a 24 hour job. Being a mother NEVER ends. It's a trial and error process - you'll do some things right and you'll do some things wrong along the way. I wish you luck!

Answer 4

Your mom loves you and will know what is best. Talk to her. She may be mad and upset, but she will help you. Be honest. You will feel better if you talk to her. She will find out eventually, one way or the other, so make it sooner rather than later.

Take a deep breath.

P.S. Do you know for sure that you are pregnant? How do you know? Did you take a pregnancy test? You are pretty young. Even if you think you are late, you might just be irregular. It's natural for someone as young as you to simply be irregular. When I was 13, I would sometimes have two or three months in between periods. I didn't become more regular until I was in my last year of college and even now I'm not entirely regular. Take a pregnancy test to be sure and then if it comes back positive, you must talk to your mom.

Breathe, honey. You'll be all right.

Answer 5

ok welll heres what i think you should do.

Sit down and talk to your mom about it. It may seem really scarey for you but you should do it because the stomach usually shows up at 3-4 months pregnant. When you start count nine months ahead and thats when you will be having the baby. Your mom should be mad at you for being a total whore but she will get over it. Also as soon as it is born and you do not want it then drop it off at the fire station and they will take it to an orphanage i think and it will grow up not knowing it's real mom and dad. If you want to keep it then you will have to enter motherhood which will be pretty hard when you need to sleep and do homework. How u name it is your choice.


Tell your mom this: Mom i think im preg...... I missed my period and (if you did not taike a preg test) i need to take a test.

Your mom would probably be puzzled but its all good im 12 and i know all dis crap from sex edddd. But your vbelly would be tooo heavy for you when u reach 9 months. Good luk to you and your baby.

Answer 6

First thing you need to do is to tell your mom .. that is the hardest thing possible but there is one thing that your mom will need from you is Honesty and to trust her to do what is right for you and for the baby i am sure that she would want you to be honest with her and she will help you figgure out the rest give it to god and he will take care of your fears and please be honest with your mother .. she can be your best friend and can be the biggest help you could ever find you need to show your mom that you trust her and her opinions 13 is way too young to be grown up and you need her now more than ever because you have yourself into a very dangerous position it can be dangerous for a 13 year old to be pregnant because your body isnt fully developed to handle a baby .. talk to your mom she will help you

Answer 7

Man what did you do! Well, first off you shouldn't have done this in the first place. I mean I'm 13. Well since its already been done, I guess the only way it to tell your mom, you can't hide it forever you know. Even if she does get mad, she'll cool over it after some days I guess. Take care of the baby and don't tell any of your friends. Name it something that means something to you, and don't be scared, don't be afraid to tell the truth.

Answer 8

well this is a hard situation.You should break it to your mom as soon as possible.Talk to her.she may be mad.You could keep the baby if you can provide for it.If you can't you shouldn't give your parents another child.You should only give the baby up for adoption if you won't be able to take care of it .You could always have your parents support you for two years and tjhen get a job and pay for daycare.Only do that if you have no problem managing school.I suggest breastfeeding if you are healthy it saves a lot of money.Have the father help out on weekends or something like that.The name is all yours. I can't help you with that

Answer 9

...well...if your parents aren't the abusive type (which some parents are) you should just tell them...but be sure to say that you really need their help right now and if they are little mad ask them to please just help you because you don't know what to do. I, personally, don't believe in abortion, but if you have no problem with it then I guess you could, but in my heart I feel that it would be better to have the baby and give it up for adoption so that this baby may have a haappy life with parents who can take care of it (if you decide not to keep it, if you do then the best of luck to you). After you intially have the baby, everything should come easily to you, though you may need to check with your parents evey now and then to make sure you're not harming the baby in any way. As for names, that should be up to you and the father. Everything will be okay in the end...best of luck to you.

Answer 10

first, you should tell your mom before she picks up on it herself, seeing as how your only 13, i'm sure she still buys your "girl things" every month, and will notice if you haven't needed them soon. if you plan on keeping this baby (idk your beliefs or values) keep in mind that you will definitely be giving up a huge part of your life, and it's going to be very hard. think about school.college. where you want to be in your adult life maybe. if you decide on a abortion, is it a decision you can live with?? don't panic, it isn't the end of world. i had my one and only child when i was 15. i got pg @ 14, got a job and did what i needed to so. in reality the majority of it fell on my mom. it's pretty impossible to work, and g2 school, and well you definitely need school. you should totally be scared, it's very big! just talk to your mom/ family. no matter what i'm sure they'll be there for you. good luck!