how do i tell my mom and where do i put the baby. abortion?
2006-12-29 17:33:29 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just tell your mom the truth... right now. It's ok.
You have to choose for yourself whether or not you want to have the baby or abort it or give it up for adoption. Don't listen to what anyone else says. Things will be ok.
2006-12-29 17:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by iamsoboredandtired 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Abortion is a very bad idea that will bother you forever. just tell her the sooner the better. If you wait she'll have less time to get over it before the baby gets her. Plus more importantly you need to get to the doctors early prenatal is very important. if you don't plan to raise the baby you can put it up for adoption. it can be closed or open. if its open adoption you can have an open relationship with your child. In some cases the mother is close enough that she is included birthday parties and invited to the child's school play. Closed of course means you have no contact with the baby.
Please tell your mom soon. There are alot of people out there who are willing to give this baby a wonderful home and life. PLEASE DON'T HAVE AN ABORTION.
Don't let people look down on you or make you feel bad about what you did. Your NOT the 13 year old have sex. Your just the one who got pregnant. I want you to understand your not alone.
2006-12-30 15:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That stinks. But you really should tell your mom. I hate to sound like I'm preaching, but if you're not old enough to handle the possibility of becoming a parent, you really shouldn't be having sex. Although many people will tell you to have an abortion, I hope you'll seriously consider the baby. It didn't ask to be conceived. My sister was in her 30s and had an abortion and believe me, it still effects her. My brother's girlfriend also had an abortion because she didn't like the thought of gaining weight and my brother dumped her because of it...he couldn't believe that someone could be so selfish. I strongly suggest that you talk with your mom about it. She may be upset to begin with, but then she'll probably calm down and you can figure out together what to do. If she's not interested in caring for the baby and you're not in a position to do so (which, if you're only 13, I seriously doubt you are) you should seriously consider giving it up for adoption. There are so many couples who want to adopt babies and so few who are up for adoption. Think about it this way, its only 9 months out of your life...suck it up and give the baby a chance to live a life. Who knows, your baby may turn out to be the next Albert Einstein (or whoever you think is really someone special in history or current events), but you'll never know if you have an abortion and chances are REALLY high that the emotional and psychological effects of having an abortion will stay with you the rest of your life.
2006-12-29 17:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, I know you're probably scared right now, but the best way to tell your mom is to be straight forward and honest. just tell her that you need to talk to her, and the two of you sit down alone together and tell her that you're pregnant.
I know that if I were your mom, I would be as supportive of you as I possibly could. this is not the time for your mom to get all upset and mad at you, so tell her that you need her support to help you get through this.
and please don't have an abortion. I know a lot of people think that's an answer to an unexpected or unwanted pregnancy, but you also have to remember that you have a little person growing in you who deserves a chance to live. if you don't feel that you can deal with a baby in your life at such a young age, adoption is always a great option. there are so many people who would just love to have a child and can't. and your baby would be a dream come true for one of those families.
just be honest with your mom, okay? tell her today so that you can be free from the stress of keeping your pregnancy a secret.
I sincerely wish you and your baby the very best that life has to offer.
2006-12-29 18:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Well, I got pregnant when I was 15, and I actually had a miscarriage, which I didn't think was so great at the time, but was actually a blessing. I felt so guilty that I had to tell my parents the day after I found out. Honestly, I just imagined the worst thing that could happen and prepared myself for that, that way whatever happened, I was ready. I expected they'd kick me out, I'd be broke, and have to drop out of high school to get a job. I don't remember the entire conversation, but it started with, "I really love you, and please don't hate me, but...." and then just flat out told them. Oh, and I told my mom first because I was closer to her and I figured she could break it to my dad better than I could.
As for abortion, after having a miscarriage myself and having many family members that can't have children at all, I know how many people are praying for babies right now. If anything, I would highly suggest adoption. Honestly, there are great couples on waiting lists for years and years before they finally get a baby.
I would also suggest talking to a Crisis pregnancy center or planned parenthood in your area.
2006-12-29 17:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by ecemajor 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your mother what happened sure shes gonna freak but what mother wouldnt. PLEASE DONT DO ABORTION! I understand your feeling like where am I going to keep this child, how much can I honestly make to take care of this child etc. Someone close to me once said that "even bad things turn out for the good" (miss you shannon) I feel that by putting this child up for abortion that you are running away from your problem. Tell your mother as soon as possible. If this turns out to be a false alarm and you are not pregnant. Dont be foolish and think that that means you can have more sex again.
My mother was found on a doorstep and adopted by my grandparents. Not a day goes by that I dont think that she should know her real parents. Please take care, and know that children are one of the greatest gifts that a human being can receive. Youll learn more about yourself from them than you will from anyone telling you.
2006-12-29 17:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your mom. Be open and honest and see what her feedback is... honestly I got pregnant at 18 heading into college and made the stupid decision of having an abortion. It's a scar in your heart that is very hard to heal... I hope you pray and make the right decision.
2006-12-29 17:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by joy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
That's some heavy information. My childhood best friend had her baby when she was 14.She was scared but she told her parents, she went through with the pregnancy.
I think you should tell your mom immediately. Good luck.
Personally I'm not for abortions, but do whats right for you.
My heart goes out to you.
Best of luck in the future.
2006-12-29 17:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're too scared to say the words, write it on paper and tell your mom you have something very important to tell her, but that you are scared.
Don't wait - after 12 weeks, abortion will not be an option.
2006-12-29 17:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
13 and why are u pregnant?
You obvisiosly shouldnt be having sex if u cant be safe., and the fact that ur 13. juz tell her im pregnant, no use in sweating over it, u'll have to tell her some time. Wouldnt u need parents permission for abortion as ur underage.
2006-12-29 17:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by otiscosy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋