I would like to become a person who can accept others as they are, rather than try and fight and get all upset about how they "should" be. How can I learn to become more accepting and open-minded? Not just about other people, but about myself as well?
2006-12-29 17:28:44 · 15 answers · asked by JudasHero 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Specific answers would be good. Like "Start asking why people behave they do instead of criticizing." That was a good one.
"Letting go of your fears." Is vague. How?
2006-12-29 17:35:54 · update #1
It is hard to accept oneself, and if you don't accept yourself it's hard to accept others too. I think reading books about people with different issues has helped me be more accepting. FInding people who like you and accept you could help you feel better and be a model of how to accept people who are less than perfect, such as all of us! If you're spiritual, a church group can be helpful. Take care, having high standards is a good thing.
2006-12-29 17:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to know yourself first before relating to another and getting into a relationship as a whole, not meaning romantically. Some are more adept in understanding than others and vice versa. Self realization, I believe, is key and relaying your experiences to others so that the mindset has a frame, which is not out of the box philosophy. You don't want to become too absorbed in others in order to understand, it comes from your heart, soul and mind. To accept yourself before others is to learn what you're capable of doing. It's very easy to say that there are no fights, that's not realistic but we in general can attune to something higher, a spiritual connection. Meditation, or whatever faith system you choose to believe in, is important- how do you perceive things already? Grasping at straws? Open minds aren't necessarily a harbinger, but a feeling of comfortableness. I hope some of this makes sense... I am the most open minded individual, or at least that's what people tell me. How can one accept themselves if they don't know who they are? I wish you all the best and a happy new year.
2006-12-29 17:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking the question is a very good start. You are already willing to be accepting and open-minded.
To accept others as they are, you first have to know how they are. Ask their opinions on various subjects, and then listen to them. Ask questions when clarification is needed, but do not criticize the opinions themselves. Don't be afraid to say you disagree, but be willing to explain why.
You are already open-minded, or you wouldn't have asked the question in the first place.
2006-12-29 18:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by oldironclub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By learning.
Take the classic: religion. One of the reasons people have a hard time accepting other peoples religion, and culture, is that it is strange to them, it is unknown. If we start educating ourselves, and learn about other peoples live, culture and religion we will learn how much alike we really are, and automatically be more open-minded and accepting.
We fear what we don't know.
2006-12-30 10:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by c_lotty2001 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize you cannot control everyone. It takes different people to make to world go round. Can you imagine how boring the world would be if everyone were the same?!?! Try looking at the good in all people instead of focusing on what you think they should change.
2006-12-29 17:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Nette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand people to be more accepting .Reading books will help you get to know people Chatting online will and you should go around and meet more people all the time to understand different kinds of people then it will be easier to accept people as they are
2006-12-29 17:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by Shahzadi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aristotle stated that the mark of an knowledgeable innovations is with the flexibility to entertain an thought devoid of accepting it. endure in innovations, the different guy or woman is a member of your species, with comparable desires, fears, and desires, on some complication-unfastened point. Empathize. attempt to make your innovations up why they experience the way they do. (you are able to desire to even ask.) nonetheless, of direction there are limits. you do no longer could desire to placed up with unkindness or intolerance. the thought comparable-intercourse couples could have the skill to get married isn't on the comparable point with the thought black human beings are not truly human. you're finding for understand-how, no longer unavoidably settlement.
2016-10-28 17:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By letting go of your own fears and prejudices and learn some acceptance. How can you expect to accept others if you don't accept yourself? Growth begins on the inside.
2006-12-29 17:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never stop asking the question "why?" Know both sides of a view. Don't criticize someone because they think differently. Figure out why they believe something.
2006-12-29 17:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can find most answers you seek about any subject on the link below. Much like yourself I am a work in progress.This is a link to a buddist site..Im not recommending religion but their philosophy is logical and unassuming..They don't ask you to join but they give good insight to lifes problems and answers..
http://buddhism.kalachakranet.org/depression.html
2006-12-29 17:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋