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me and my bf had sex and i really luv him so we had it without a codom. Now i'm 5 months pregnant and no one knows. They just think i'm gaining weight. What should i do?>??

2006-12-29 17:01:38 · 8 answers · asked by Hot Mamma 1 in Health Women's Health

8 answers

You don't need to be lectured about how the whole i love you so I'll do it raw thing is not good logic. But I hope you know understand that it isn't. You need to first tell your boyfriend is you have not because if he doesn't want the child it'll likely change his feelings for you so figure that out first. Honey you're going to start showing really soon. I'm sure you know at this point abortion is out of the question that leaves you two options deliver the baby and choose to parent or deliver the baby and chose to adopt. It's hard but you are going to have to make that decision despite what the boyfriend says you have to do what you think is best. Talk to a very close friend and ask them to help you prepare for telling everyone. At some point before you start to show you also should work up the courage to talk to your parents and present them with your decision to avoid hearing people scream at you " you are so stupid, what are you going to do with your life. I was surprised how well my mom took it when i told her, she was upset at first and then decided that she would help me just not raise my daughter for me. You have 4 months so if your parents decide to kick you out just know that there are homes out there for pregnant girls teens to 25 that will take you in pay for medical care and give you emotional support. They'll even help you find housing after the fact ( and it's not the same thing as a homeless shelter you get actual rooms). Is your boyfriend supportive if so maybe you can have him tell your parents with you, to alleviate some of the tension or just to have someone to hold onto. I wish you the best. If you need any help feel free to email me.

2006-12-30 01:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0 0

Absolutely you need to be under a doctor's care...for your health and for the health of the baby.

I would strongly advise you to tell your parents ASAP because you'll need a lot of support and you'll need to discuss your options and figure out what you want to do in the long run.

If for some reason you absolutely cannot tell a parent then seek the advice of another trusted adult. You must tell someone...they'll definitely find out sooner or later and it'll be so much easier if you're honest and up front right away.

2006-12-29 17:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by gypzndog 3 · 0 0

First of all, YOU are pregnant not "you and your boyfriend", is he carrying a living being that he will have to push out of a small hole in 4 months, NO. Second of all, why don't you want people to know? Are you a teenager? Religous issues? What? I need more info. And finally, you need to go see your doctor for prenatal care. Also you might want to tell your parents because they will know something is up when you start carrying a baby around.

2006-12-29 17:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

You need to see a doc ASAP for prenatal care. You should not have let this go this long without seeing a doc. There is a baby's life at stake here so please please quit thinking about yourself and get help for the innocent baby you are carrying. You are going to have to work fast to figure out what you will do once the baby is born and how you will feed and clothe it. All those things a baby needs do not just fall into your lap so it is time to get real and think about the baby now and not yourself.

2006-12-29 17:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You should have seen a doctor a long time ago. You're putting the baby's health, as well as your won, in danger.

Before too long, people are going to notice. You'll be showing soon, if not too much already. You just need to tell someone. If you let it go, it could be dangerous.

2006-12-29 17:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to stop being selfish and start taking care of yourself for your babies sake. All this baby has is you. Nomatter your age,family, and status, you made the choice to have unprotected sex. You have to grow up and accept the fact that you are having a baby. You've created life, try and grasp this beautiful fact of life.

2006-12-29 18:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0 0

tell anyone who can help you especially an ob-gyne. your baby needs prenatal care. i've been in your shoes and no body knows until i'm about 23 weeks pregnant. they also thought that i was just gaining weight. i told a friend and i live with her for a few days, and she told my mom because she also experienced that, and she knows that i need help, she's really worried about me because i told her that i've having cramps in my belly, she really was a good friend, she helped me and by the time my parents knew, they went to me and just hugged me, no explanations asked, they knew i've been through a lot and i really need to be taken care of especially my baby. if you don't want to let your family to know, tell a friend, or just go to an ob-gyne and get pre natal care. it's for your own good and your baby.
take care!

2006-12-30 00:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by jae 3 · 0 0

SEE A DOCTOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-12-29 17:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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