He said he will bring her back to our country. I asked what will happen to our relationship, and he said time will tell. I am very much in love with him. I cant bear the thought of another woman sharing his bed. Any ideas on how to deal with this situation?
2006-12-29 16:55:53 · 25 answers · asked by jen 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's an arranged marriage, and he does not have the bolloc ks to say no. He also mentioned that i should not be selfish. I am really so tormented about this. He's the love of my life.
2006-12-29 17:07:44 · update #1
Striker, i cant reach you that way. Hmm, do you have an alternate address? Keen on talking to you. Thanks
2007-01-01 17:20:49 · update #2
Jen, you have got about 18 good answers already, there is little more to add, the consensus is that you need to move on; after four years its not easy but you need to start now, don't get sucked in with thoughts of revenge, just let go, you deserve someone better, this could mark the turning point in your life so choose carefully and wisely, no drink binges, no sorrowful nights, just move on and find that inner strength that seems to come in time of need and look up to God
2006-12-29 20:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Patriot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, i usually read other posts before answering a question, so as to get a better idea of an answer that i can give-but i have an answer to YOUR question straight away...GET RID OF THIS CRETIN AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! He is using you, you must see that? This is NOT going to get any better for you in any way-never mind the "i can't bear this-i'm so upset-etceteraetcetera"-get rid of him, find yourself a decent guy, and move on...you are better than this, you just need to be very strong within yourself. How are you going to feel when PLANK is married-has a child-and YOU are the other woman? I am telling you now-you really want to think about this situation, not for just this time frame, but for the future also...especially when children start to become involved. If you think you have a problem now-you just wait 'till the patter of tiny feet are heard!
2006-12-30 15:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm yeah that would be a bit shocking. What will happen to your relationship? Obviously if he is married you don't have one anymore. Assumably this is an arranged marriage of some kind? Nothing you can do about it but be very angry that he led you on in the way he did. Find a respectable and honest man honey.
2006-12-30 00:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Jen, I feel sorry for you. I am sure you are unaware of Indian cultures and traditions where most of the time boys get married as par their family wish and to someone they don't even know. He should have made you aware about this before spending four years with you. I think you have been cheated. Send me his details on striker_online@yahoo.com and I will make sure that the girl he will get married knows that you are in his life. Now I am scared about this poor girl who he will gonna get married and than do all sorts of inhuman act with her in the bed, and on the other hand keep you complately stranded. write to me!
2006-12-30 01:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by circleinstraightline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he would find the courage to say no to the arranged marriage. Maybe you could help him with this? Have him talk to his family and explain that you two are in love, and the arranged marriage would be heartbreaking and is unnecessary.
2006-12-30 01:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on with ur life and dont try to understand this culture .
if he thinks that u r selfish then yes be selfish and tell him so .
nowadays evryone can chose what he wants and if he loves u he would go against this stupid rules .
its not worth it !
u will find love where u will be the only "selfish" woman !
have a happy new year
2006-12-30 04:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is gonna sound negative but I can empathise with your boyfriend. I actually feel sorry for his bride. How is it her fault that she is getting married to a guy who wont love her? If he cant tell his family, why dont u tell him to tell the bride to be the truth (if he cant handle that, tell him to tell her that he is not happy with the proposal) so she can reject this proposal? In this way, its not his fault and he wont be getting married to her
You have 2 options here:
Either you can fight for him
or
you can go away from his life and find some one else
2006-12-30 07:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by I is I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like this boyfriend of yours have had enough of you and is looking for greener pasture. Getting married could be just an excuse. Its unfortunate that you've fallen for him but life needs to move on. Forget him and move on with your life.
2006-12-30 00:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no time to loose!! Act fast!! Rob his flight ticket. Make him miss the flight. Do something -- but do it subtly.
When he has missed the flight, tell him innocently that God wished that he miss the flight. God has other lofty plans for him, and then with tears in your eyes gently confess that you are in love.
Indian boys generally fall for such drama, but it has to be enacted naturally and perfectly. Please do rehearse, and remember that all is fair in love and war.
Best of Luck
2006-12-30 01:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he really wants to get married with someone else, then dont torture yourself by sticking with him any longer. it'll hurt but you've got to do it for your own sake. since he doesnt wish to be with you any longer shows that he isnt responsible. so you've got to do your best and get on with life. im sure you'll meet a more faithful guy next time.
2006-12-30 01:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋