I was made fun of in middle school...and now I sometimes worry about it in college. I'm kind of insecure.
Any suggestions on how to get over it?
2006-12-29 16:50:55 · 10 answers · asked by Greg S 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
See a therapist and/or psychiatrist. He/she can tell you whether or not something can be done about it, and how.
Since you're in college, you should be able to cop some free counseling from the school. Why not give it a try? You've got nothing to lose, and it's right there for you.
Good luck from a fellow self-flagellator
Big Al Mintaka
2006-12-29 16:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by almintaka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that everything has a purpose and we are given what we can handle in life. When children are picked on or made fun of that to has a place in society. Part of learning to integrate with others is learning what is so different about ourselves, and if we can't cope as a child, than how can we cope as an adult. We all have to work at some point, and the same ladder in school we see in the office/etc., and I hope they can handle the break room or whatever so the bills can still get paid?
2006-12-30 01:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by I Am Blessed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is nothing in life that doesn't shape us, but to judge something as good or bad, now that it really hard to decide. And only we can decide what part (small or large) it plays in our lives.
If someone makes fun of you and you remember it, you probably not going to do that to others and as such you might be a better person.
You have to realize that the people that made fun of you in middle school were young, and unfortunately unthinking, but most likely they will grow up and learn it isn't nice to do, just as you must realize to put it in its proper place. What someone called you in middle school only binds you if you choose it.
Look at today, are you what you were in middle school? At 80 are you going to be what/were you are now? Take each day as a day to be what you want to be and don't worry about what others tell you so much. If you do that I'm sure in not to distant time you will find that people recognize that you are a person to admire.
2006-12-30 02:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Bulk O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that memory will always be with you in the future...but maybe if you tried fixing whatever it was they made fun of you for (like if overweight go on a diet) if it could be fixed... but who cares what anyone says??? everyone is insecure about something even they are! and people just want to pick on you because there is nothing better to do. just ignore them, or maybe try making friends with them before they start to make fun of you! it's just college! do it and get it over with! you may have a better life in the future!!!!
2006-12-30 01:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by americanangel519 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We encounter different sets of kids in the middle school, highschool and college. Am telling you, the best way to deal with this, is to have more self confidence -- focus on your best assets/skills/talents and better yet, focus on your goals after you graduate in college.
Remember this: think good, feel good, look good. Having a positive outlook can generate a lot more positive things.
Goodluck. Don't be too so hard on yourself.
2006-12-30 01:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can affect you. But, in college you are an adult and have control over your life. You choose to associate with certain people and you also choose what classes you attend, etc. You have much more control over your life in college than you do in middle school. Not only that, but by college most people are relatively adult about things like that, although you will come across the occasional a**hole.
2006-12-30 00:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Brother
Most people at some time in their lives were made to feel poorly about themselves. Most people never 'get over' it. But there are ways to deal with it.
Look at the way most of your family, friends, neihbors treat you. They are the people whose opinions of you really count. They are the ones who know you best. If they treat you with love and respect, friendship and goodwill..then that is all that should really matter to you. Don't allow others control your life.
2006-12-30 01:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by dondee31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think being made fun of can be very damaging...but i believe you have the power to change it into something positive.
you have to examine yourself..good and bad, and then accept and love yourself, warts and all. we all have good and bad about ourselves. you have to love it all.
if you can't accept yourself right now, fake it till you make it....
fake it till you feel it. when i'm having a rotten day, i smile anyway even tho its fake and it always ends up to be a real smile sometime during the day.
if you let the damage follow you thru your life, you'll let the people who hurt you win.
Bless you...i hope you learn to accept and love yourself!
2006-12-30 01:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it effects many people...Bullies are dangerous and generally cowards........
Get involved in a few activities at college....do well in your classes..offer to tutor others that need help......participate in church youth activities...volunteer to help little kids....sign up to be a big brother /sister......get out there and bust your rump..you're better than all the crap that has been shoved your way.......
Remember: SUCESS IS MEASURED IN CANS NOT CAN'TS !
2006-12-30 01:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by cesare214 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not really...forgive and forget who cares?? ppl who r like that r jelous!!!!!!!
2006-12-30 00:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋