Why does my friend lie to her parents about me sometimes?

Question

I am 12 yrs old, and we have been friends for 4 yrs. My mom and her mom are good friends too. Sometimes she will tell her mom lies about things that I had said or done. It makes me look bad, and they confront me about it - usually when my mom isn't there. When I try to confront her about things that she has done - they either deny it or sugar coat it with an excuse. Most of the time she and I get along really good, but when we get into an argument or disagree - she exaggerates what I do and say. Not saying I am perfect, and like having her as a friend. I have spoken to her about other things, but not about lying about me. I think she'll just deny it. What does it mean when she does this and what should I do?

Answer 1

The next time your friend tells a lie about you, stop her on the spot and correct her. This would put her intergrity at stake and she will learn to speak the truth. If all else fail, I suggest you drop this friend and move on with your life. Having a friend who is a lie can be painful not to mention your reputation is at her wimp and fancy.

Answer 2

If her mom thinks your a good kid , she may say good things about you to her daughter which makes her jealoos so she needs to say something bad about you to make her mom not like u so much but it will eventually end up making her mom not let her hang around you period . i would talk to your friend and let them know what could happen if she continues to lie about you and if risking your friendship of 4 yrs is worth it then he/she wasnt your frined to begin with

Answer 3

Maybe you should not be friends with her anymore. Friendship is about mutual respect and support, not about lies and excuses.

Answer 4

Talk to her about it, and if she doesn't change, then just stop hanging around her. You don't need a "friend" like that.

Answer 5

immaturity----when you both get older this kiddie stuff should stop, you usually find this kind of rivalry with siblings