how do i deal with my ex girlfriend who cheated on me?

Question

my ex left me and abandoned our 2 girls late sept/2006,she said she left because she didn,t love me and would come back in time,i recently with my 2 girls was driving by her boyfriend,s house and saw her naked in the kitchen,i now know she has been having an affair and has been lieing to me and my girls,what do i do

Answer 1

Well your not married to her so you don't need a divorce, but I still would be friendly with her for the kid's sakes. If she doesn't care about the kids at all or shows lack of being a good mother, I would call a custody hearing and get full custody of the children and explain how she is a bad example to her kids because of the affair and the lying.

Hopefully the two of you can be friends and nice to each other for the kids, and I dont think you should stay with her if she lies unless you are both willing to put aside your differences and take up responsibility to your children. Im not blaming u because u seem to be a good parent, but your ex is showing otherwise and needs to be confronted, for your kids because its not their fault and they deserve better.

Answer 2

What is it that you are wanting? Someone else to tell you whether you should confront her; take her back; dump her....what????
Only you know whether you could want her back after now knowing what she is doing. If she said that she did not love you anymore, what did you really expect her to be doing after she left??
Did you see her naked in the kitchen form the road while you were driving by his house, or did you stop the car and approach the house and peek in?
Has she kept in contact with the 2 children since she has been gone? Does she have any interest in them at all?
You can't force her to come back if she doesn't love you or doesn't want to be with you.
I would say that it is time for you to move on and start another relationship with someone else who will accept you and your two children as a package relationship.
Let go of the past before it eats you alive and please do not trash her in front of your children. What she has done has nothing to do with her kids...it is between you and her...no matter what!!!

Answer 3

File for custody IMMEDIATELY. If she abandoned her own children, you have the responsibility to protect them. She is obviously not ready to be a responsible parent. Since you could see her naked in the kitchen through the window, she doesn't seem responsible about what can be seen from the street.

Get help from your parents if necessary. Contact family court for information and immediately file a petition. Then get child support from her. Did your daughter's see mom naked in the kitchen? Aside from your hurt feelings, protect your children. That's the most important thing right now. Get CUSTODY.

Answer 4

aw man.. that's sad seriously you should have gotten married before having kids so she cant just run away like that. now the only thing you can do is to talk it out with her. if she really doesnt want to be with you then what's the point in having such an unfaithful partner? there are many more good girls out there. you should also have a good talk with your kids and help them understand the situation. lastly, try getting on with life. holding on wont really do you any good. it'll hurt but you've got to do it. remember, your are also doing it for the sake of your kids. so be strong..
you could try going to church too. God can help ;)

Answer 5

Honey she left you and kept you on the line. It's not really cheating if you were separated. you were foolish to go a long with her plan. In that length of time you should have already filed for custody due to abandonment and child support and told her where she could stick her ideas. It's not too late, start now.

Answer 6

She has not come back to you yet and I doubt that she will. She does not love you anymore. Why would she come back? In the unlikely event that she does, you would then have to decide whether to forgive her or not. If you still love her, you would. If not, a break-up is likely. I feel sad for your 2 girls though, even more so if they are still young. I wish you the very best!

Answer 7

If she's your ex, she doesn't belong to you and therefore is not having an affair. She's moved on. She doesn't care about you or your children if she can leave at the drop of a hat like that. Honestly, you must think of your daughters. Do what you can for them. You must.

Answer 8

forget her, move on, find someone who is worth your love, and take good care of your 2 girls. deal with the pain of being abandoned. i know it hurts, i've been there. but the pain will pass. you have a responsibility with your 2 kids. focus on that. if you were married to your ex, get a divorce, an annulment, whatever. take care of yourself and your 2 girls. and when the time comes that you find another woman worth your love, take it. good luck.

Answer 9

your quite lucky indeed that u got rid of her so easily. as for her lies and affair, u do nothing at all, get divorced and get full custody, and stop trying to see what she is doing, u already know, and it just brings u more unhappiness. take care of your children, get rid of that person, and move on, she doesn't love u, she may be incapable of love, and don't ever think she is going to treat the new man any better than she treated u. u thought to highly of her, and got upset when u saw her for what she is.

Answer 10

Your ex-girlfriend is an adult...she choose to walk away...are you willing to wait for her to come back and do it all over again?...You have two wonderful girls to think about..you must be a great dad too!...you know they need you more then ever now...being a single dad can be the best thing you ever did for them...