if your wife lied telling a guy she wanted to have sex with him, then after days of fighting she admits it. if she lied about her past, then comes clean. if she lied about a lot that she has done then after fighting almost getting a divorce she finally comes clean, should i leave her because of the lies or should i try to work things out
2006-12-29 16:35:44 · 17 answers · asked by young grown man 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she only came clean because she really must not want the divorce, she thinks u will forgive her if she is truthful. but what happens next time she gets angry, will she cheat again. personally i would just rather suffer once, and grieve the loss once, than keep going through it over and over again. once trust is lost, the work involved to regain it may be just too hard to do, unless u really have a super marriage to begin with. but if it has had alot of troubles, than sometimes it is just best to move on without a person who lies to u all of the time.
2006-12-30 00:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me the shoe was on the other foot. First, I was cheated on. I tried very hard to trust and not check up on him and believe in "us!" Then during a fight about some of his habits and where he went - he hit me and I left as soon as possible.
A week later - oh he missed me, he loved me, he wanted to see me. I gave in because of how long I had known this man and I did still love him. About a week later - AGAIN he announces he's seeing someone and oh yeah, he wanted to keep seeing me too. I said BYE BYE!!
ONCE A CHEATER AND A LIAR - ALWAYS A CHEATER AND A LIAR!!!
2006-12-30 01:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sherri R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that can answer this question. The only reason she came clean is because she was caught, not because it bothered her to lie. What else is she not telling you because she wasn't caught in the act. I don't think you will even know or trust her again. I say move one, but you are the one that has to decide if you can live with that or not.
2006-12-30 00:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and work things out, and if you can't resolve the problem then try to get a marriage counselor. There are too many divorces in the world already.
2006-12-30 00:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give her the option of coming clean with everything and talking about it - thats if u honestly, truly and rationally think that she/ your relationship is worth it.
Otherwise I would have to agree and say, call it quits. Find someone who will respect you - or rediscover yourself
Best of luck
HAPPY NEW YEAR FROM OZ!!
2006-12-30 00:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by scorpiosa70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think no one likes uncertainty. Honesty and trust should be parts of our life. How can we predict what it will happen to us and think about its consequences if someone always lies to us.
Now it depends on you to decide. But in my case, if it really happens, I will leave her forever.
2006-12-30 01:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by eddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce isnt the answer to everything, you'll just be avoiding the problem. try talking it out.. since shes come clean with oyu i dont see why she wouldnt want to settle the problem as a whole.
2006-12-30 00:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know is she still lying did she sleep around do you trust her I think you need more than should I shouldn't I take her back you need couples counselling.
2006-12-30 00:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by lol_des 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship requires honesty and trust.
She wasnt honest, now there is no trust!
A relationship no longer exists
2006-12-30 00:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you think you can trust her anymore? do you want to take her back ? i think you need to find out what your inner voice is saying and act upon that.
2006-12-30 01:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋