2006-12-29 16:17:28 · 57 answers · asked by slipknot8662 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They are going to feel whatever they feel. That's basically as out of their control as being gay is out of your control. Tell them at home in private.
Just tell them, "Mom, Dad, I want to talk to you. There's something you need to know about me. I'm gay."
Good luck and don't worry about a negative reaction. It's something they will need time to deal with. Expect tears, anger, yelling, confusion, blame, threats, name calling. Then give them time to process the information. After a very short time you should go back to doing exactly what you always did. Introduce your gay lifestyle to them gradually.
Of course, they could always say, "That's ok, we knew. We're glad you finally told us."
2006-12-29 16:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Just Chillin' 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Apparently you already know how they feel. They are probably going to be hurt and angry. It will take some time for them to come to grips with it. Just be patient. Just because they love you doesn't mean that they will be accepting either. Prepare yourself for that. Tell them that if they have any questions that you will sit down and answer them. When people hear these kind of things I think it scares them. I hope that you are using protection. I have known families who just cannot accept it. So Good Luck to you!
2006-12-29 16:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Debcee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends partially on your parents and their attitudes and partially on how you present it. I would suggest that you first find out if your parents are homophobic or not. If they are, it might be very difficult to do at all. If they are not clearly homophobic, then i would suggest that you talk with them during a calm time, like after dinner. Then, just present the facts in a calm manner. Be prepared for lots of questions from them such as whether you have actually had sex with a same sex partner, how long you have known this, would you be willing to try dating the opposite sex until you are sure, etc. If they seem to be getting angry, then politely suggest that you continue the conversation at another time after they have had a while to think about what you have told them.
2006-12-29 16:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by rivkadacat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are gay I think the best way is to just be honest with them. Why would you think they would be angry? Do they love you and care about you? Do they respect you? If so, they should be able to understand if you explain to them why you believe you are gay. Granted, this is something I cannot understand but I do know it happens. Sometimes it is difficult for parents to understand but I think sometimes or maybe oftentimes it is because a parent is hit with it so hard and no real explanation is given to them by their son or daughter as to why they feel they are gay or why they know they are gay. Know what I mean?
2006-12-29 16:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The assumption here is that they will be angry. Since you know your parents better than I do, I'll assume you are right.
My question is, why do you need to tell them about this? Is it that you want to be accepted for who you are?
In my experience, people who really feel comfortable about themselves rarely feel that need to tell on themselves and be validated, so if it were me, I just would not tell them and I would live my life the way I want to live it.
However, if you insist on it, then I would enlist the assistance of a therapist who can help you arrive at the best way of revealing this information and they can also help you with the aftermath when it is received poorly.
2006-12-29 16:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tell them honestly and if they love you they won't get angry. They may already suspect and are waiting for you to bring the topic up on your own. When my daughter finally told me she a lesbian, I had already known for a couple of years. I was simply giving her the time and space to feel comfortable enough to tell me. You are still their kid and they may not understand but will still love and support you. As a parent, you raise your children the best you know how and accept their lifestyle and decisions about their life when they are adults.
2006-12-29 16:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know it is weird that this question just came up because me and two of my friends were sitting around discussing things today and we talked about this very thing. All of us agreed that it would not be the worst thing that could happen. I mean it is not like you did something criminal or are hurting people etc. It might take some getting used to and I would'nt be totally surprised if they need time to adjust but I am sure it will not change their love for you. I know I would need time for it to sink in as parent but I think I could be ok with it, and welcome who ever they chose are their partner into my family.
2006-12-29 16:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by smilechaser 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No idea-but as a parent, if my child told me they were gay , I'd be taken back by surprise at first but you love your children no matter what .Being gay wouldn't affect my love,respect or etc. Still mine,right? Good Luck , I realize all parents aren't the same.
2006-12-29 16:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by rosebud 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, they are your parents so they know your behavior from the point you came out of your mom's birth canal. I'm pretty sure they have a hunch that you are gay. I don't think they would be shocked if you told them. Just sit them down in the living room one evening and just tell them.
2006-12-29 16:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell them something really horrible first, like you have a month to live. And then tell them you are gay. Then say you are kidding about the first part. They will be relieved.
In all seriousness, I assume you have good reason expect that they will be angry. Can you drop subtle hints to test their reaction beforehand?
2006-12-29 16:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by Andrew O 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋