she is an only child and her father and i never told her that we were trying to have another baby and now at 12 weeks we have found out it is twins. i've just started to show but she hasnt noticed becuase ive been wearing large sweaters. i was thinking about taking her to a pool and wearing my normal bathing suit so she can see the bump and then share the news with all her friends at the pool. what do you think? and do you think she will be excited? am i being incosiderate by telling her in public?
2006-12-29 16:15:15 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you should tell her privately. And you should tell her BEFORE she notices on her own.
2006-12-29 16:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her at home, that way she can share her real feelings with you. You can include her by letting her know how you are excited that she is going to be a big sister, and tell her that you are going to need her help. And believe me, as a mother of 8 month old twins and a 3 year old, you WILL need help. You can also include her by letting her have some say in suggesting names or help putting the nursury together. I became a big sister when I was 16, and I was the baby of the family before that, I was so excited. Hopefully she will be thrilled. Good Luck. You should join the M.O.M. group, the Moms of Multiples, Twins are a handful, but I love mine to death.
2006-12-29 16:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG... I wouldn't tell her in public.. You might not get the reaction your hoping to get. Tell her at home.. I would be furious at my mom if I was 14 and she told me in public and if I had friends there.. That's a no go.. But, this is all about opinions. You have yours and I have mine.. I would NEVER do that to my daughter.
She's the only child for 14 years and used to it now.. Now she's going to feel rejected to a point. The baby will come first and she will be pushed aside. She still has important school functions and you won't have time. She might resent the twins.
All I can say is Good Luck and best wishes..
Congrats on the twins!!
2006-12-29 16:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey... well, a 14 year old is NOT a child.. I know she is YOUR child and she will always feel like this to you, but 14 is old enough to understand that. And besides, it´s not her decision. I remember that my mom got pregnant when I was 6. She just sat with me and said: "I have some good news for you" and I just asked "Are you pregnant again?" (there was something about her voice)...
You are already pregnant, and I am hoping that you are going to keep those babies either way. If she´s not happy, it´s probably insecurity of losing some of your love.. Just make sure to remind her how much you love her and how much she means to you and never, no one, not even other kid will take it away from you... Good luck! :D
2006-12-29 16:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ B ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her in private. At 14, it's very easy to be humiliated by the parents. I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate you dragging her out in public (with HER friends, none the less) and telling her the news. Also, there's the fact that she'll probably be mad at you for not telling her, first. (as opposed to waiting till she's with her friends, and then telling EVERYONE at once. People feel special when they're first to know).
You should have told her sooner. I'd be mad if my mother (or anyone else, for that matter) waited until they were 3 months along to tell me.
2006-12-29 16:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by [we're all mad here] 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 04:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur daughter!.. Honesty is the best thing in a family... Always... Who knows maybe she does want a sister/brother.....I have 3 sister.. and i love them so much even though they drive me crazy sometimes.. But I know i can always rely on them..... Just talk to ur daughter, have ur husband with you.. sit down and have a nice long talk..... tell her that no matter what u will always love her.. Tell her that for a while when the baby comes it will be hectic for a while.. and tell her that she has to help! lol.... familes are supposed to support each other no matter what.... Congratulations on the pregancy! Good Luck.. Ciao
2006-12-29 16:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by alohaforever16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL HER IN PUBLIC !!!
I am about your daughter's age and if I were her I'd hate you for having more kids, but I'd hate you even more for telling me in public, where I wouldn't have the privacy to scream profanity. She may react completely differently, but be careful and tread lightly. Teens have enough problems to deal with without the threat of extra sibs on the way. And she's an only child? Whoa. She's used to being #1 by now.....
She'll either be all maternal, or she'll be neutral, or she'll despise you and your children (like what I would do), for at least a few months (or years). But whatever you do, DON'T TELL HER IN PUBLIC.
*laughs* Good luck with that...
2006-12-29 16:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Eris 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I was an only child until i wan 9 and i was very happy when my mom said that she was having my sister. I d tell her in private and go with the flow from there remember that you are her parent even though your telling her something that may make her act out or something to that effect. Be sure to be fair yet sturn.... good luck
2006-12-29 16:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by krystals220 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to tell her; not show her and hope she figures it out. Second, do not tell her in public. Include her in things as though she were an adult instead of a baby. Sit down with her and tell her that she is a young woman now, and that you will be looking to her for help, because you are going to have a baby. She may be angry that you waited so long to tell her, so be prepared for that as well.
2006-12-29 16:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I am 18 and an only child, personally I would be very excited, espically that it is twins. I have always begged my mother to have another. But thats just me. You may want to tell her in private though.
2006-12-29 17:42:56 · answer #11 · answered by J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋