I think my long-term boyfriend of 5 years is addicted to porn. We plan to get married and I'm not sure if I'd be able to handle this hurtle. He gets very defensive if I tell him hurts me, and I guess this is because he's ashamed of it. Anyone have suggestions on how to deal with this? There's still no resolution to this even though he has promised me he wouldn't look at it while I am in the house at all. I've brought it up so many times that I don't think he'd take me seriously if I did it anymore. Help!
2006-12-29 16:06:33 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you can install a software like NetDog Porn Filter on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-12-30 13:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"addicted to porn" Sorry except for very extreme cases (borderline OCD behavior) this just isn't an actual thing.
Given the premise that almost all adult males check porn now and then (and sorry, they do, more so since the internet made it easier/free) and have done so since any kind of viewable art has existed in every area of the world...
The real questions you should be asking are,
Is he taking into consideration your feelings (if you're uncomfortable with it he should at least tone it down/attempt to keep it off your radar but not lie to you and tell you he NEVER would look)
Is he allowing porn to take precedence over your relationship, is he unavailable to you sexually/romantically?
Can YOU actually handle the idea that he does that? If you can't, like any other reason, you are a free person, free to leave and find someone else...
If he is totally inconsiderate or unavailable, or just straight up not making you happy anymore. Leave the dude, it wasn't porn that did it, that means either he's always been a jerk or that the relationship is unraveling as they sometimes do.
The fact that he seems shamed by it and says he promised not to look at least while you're there makes him seem like an average dude who is trying to be considerate of your feelings while not lying to you about something he doesn't intend to give up completely.
You can look for someone else, but you are going to be hard pressed to find a guy that doesn't look at porn, or even less desirably doesn't check out other women, or EVEN less desirably doesn't cheat because he's so sexually frustrated because he doesn't crank one out now and then when you're not in the mood.
Snooping (answer above me) is the WORST option, your boyfriend is not a child to be censored, nor a criminal to be monitored. You are supposed to trust him. Looking at a guys internet history whether you are a parent, a spouse, a gf, a sibling... you are going to see some disturbing **** lol, sometimes it's best not to know.
2014-08-01 11:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by nekospiritfire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋