would u accept an engagement ring your cheap *** fiance buys through an ad in the newspaper....and yet will spend thousands on stocks he thinks will make him a millionaire??
2006-12-29 16:01:48 · 44 answers · asked by penelope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I wouldn't.
2006-12-29 16:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
yes I probably would because I'm not hung up on material things what ever happened to it's the thought that counts have you ever thought about the fact that his money is tied up in stocks and that the ring that he bought you was the best that he could afford at that particular time didn't think so think about this he does care about you if he didn't he wouldn't have gotten you a ring at all but he did and you are not satisfied when you should be thankful cause just maybe just maybe when his stock comes in he'll show you that because you accepted the first ring without any problem he's going to get you something very very expensive some people do things like this this just to see what type of individual they are dealing with you have those out here that just put $$$$ in mind and then you have those that just thankful for what they do get
2006-12-29 16:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. It sounds like there are problems beyond his buying a "used" ring. He obviously has poor financial sense if he is trying to invest in junk stock in get rich quick schemes.
2. No, I wouldn't accept it. To me that is just tacky beyond belief! It came off the hand of a couple that broke up. If you believe in karma or whatever that's like tempting the fates.
And it also says to me that he does not think enough of you to put real thought into something that is suppose to be very special. The only way I would accept something like that is if it was vintage from an estate and you particularly liked older jewelry styles. As in engagement rings used to be several stones that the first letters of each stone spelled out REGARD Ruby, Emerald, Garnet, Amythest, Ruby, Diamond. But that would make it an antique and something he picked out especially for you.
3. No - tell him thanks but no because until you think enough of me to pick out something special whether it's big or small or no diamond at all don't call me.
This has nothing to do with being a gold digger - it's just tacky.
2006-12-29 16:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sherri R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do the two of you talk openly about your hopes and dreams? Do you talk about how each of you values money, debts and what really matters to each of you in life? Not to sound rude but based on your post it does not.
How much does he need to spend in your eyes to "prove" he loves you? Some women equate how much a man spends on them with how much they are worth. This simply is not the case. Your potential worth is immeasurable, but you won't know that if you tie your happiness to materialistic things.
Without knowing more about your man there is no way to know what he values. Is he a saver? Does he try to get good deals? What does he value out of life? Now ask yourself the same questions. If you two are not on the same financial values page, with the same goals in mind, seriously stop and have open talks. If you are religious get a support group/pastor involved.
Also, you may want to reduce your "expectations" from men in general. Men are brainwashed that they must give an engagement ring, then a diamond wedding ring worth six months of salary, then pay for a wedding and honeymoon. WOW that sounds like a recipe for MASSIVE DEBT! Does that sound remotely intelligent? Do you really want your new life together to be BURIED under debt?
So, if you are looking for him to spend lots of money on you just to keep you happy and prove he is not cheap by your standards and he is not that type of guy for whatever reasons, you may want to reconsider and move on. We hope this is not the case because it is very hard to find someone whom you genuinely love and want to spend the rest of your life. So please make time to sit down and discuss how you both feel on this issue and share your values. Above all NEVER say he is cheap, that will KILL any chance of openness or improvements in your relationship.
Good luck and best wishes on your life journey.
2013-11-15 10:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by momo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are a gold digger. Leave him and let him find a woman who is worth having him.
My husband bought my first wedding set at wal-mart. I didn't care because I loved him. All that mattered was that we were getting married and were going to be together. After 4 years of marriage (and him graduating college) he was able to get a better job and buy me a gorgeous wedding ring from a jewelers. Guess what? I still also have my old wedding ring because it means so much to me. Even though it was only $200.
If your relationship is based on how much money he spends on your ring then it won't work out anyway.
2006-12-29 16:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kylie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have already answered your question. You don't sound very happy. Maybe some understanding for his reasons would be a good idea. Does he not understand the significance of the ring to you? Does he understand why buying you a cheap ring is frustrating to you? Is it only because he spends more money on other things, or do you feel that it symbolizes his feelings to your relationship (it's not worth as much as his stocks)? Another huge question, Do you love him? Would you do anything for him? Is he the right guy for you? Don't put such a huge decision on his ring choice, make the right choice based on what is best for you! Good luck!
2006-12-29 16:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Curiosity 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
and what is an engagement ring? A worthless rock given "value" by an organization that breeds murder and hate in the name of mining. These rocks are very common and are stockpiled to give the illusion of rarity. Your ex fiance is showing that he has a lot of common sense. Also, by not buying a new diamond, he isn't adding to the horrible problem that mining diamonds causes. Go see Blood Diamond and then you will see what a special person he is and how selfish and materialistic you are.
2006-12-29 16:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are reading too much into this. It could be that he got a great deal on a ring that might otherwise have cost a lot more. At least he was thinking of you when he did it. Think about all the other women who would like to get married and never get asked. Consider yourself lucky. At least with the stocks, he is trying to secure himself for the future. If you marry him, that means security for you too.
2006-12-29 16:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the contrary, the ring is probably worth more than he paid for it & when he hits it big in the stock market he'll be able to buy you something better.Back up you're man instead of going against him & he will reward you greatly in the future.If i'ts still a problem, sell the ring & get a ring you like.
2006-12-29 16:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by jimbobob 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him, you will accept the ring - it's just a ring! but you obviously have issues with him or you would not call him names over the ring so talk to him about it and maybe he will realize you are not happy with the situation and you can come to an understanding and get the ring you want.
2006-12-29 16:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by Wild Honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gold digging snatch such as yourself should be glad she found a mate at all. Spending thousands on investments makes waaaay more sense than dropping even one thin dime in the direction of a stuck up nair the well such as yourself. In the future, after he divorces your shallow butt, he can rake in the millions in investments and get an appreciative fiance.
2006-12-29 16:06:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋