my dad gets angry over every thing. to put it simply. to go into detail...
our house is a huge mess for many reasons. 1) we just got home from christmas vaction and have not had time to unpack. 2) there are 6 people living in an 1100 sqft house, and at LEAST1/2 of that is taken up by bookcases, boxes, frunture, and just "stuff". and 3) we have NO money AT ALL.
he has a deadbeat job that makes him work long hours for next to no pay, and he wont even look for a better job. (he teaches at the stinkin' community college) he has 2 master's degrees in math, i am sure that if he looked SOMEONE would hire him and pay him better.
we fight all the time because he will not let me drive untill i am 18, because his parents made him wait. so i cannot get a jobbecause we live in the smallest town posable and the unemployment rate here is VERY high, with so many adults looking for jobs it is like imposable for me to find one. i am sick of my dad being angry all the time about things he wont even
2006-12-29 15:57:53 · 7 answers · asked by someone 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
try to change. and he is never willing to listent to me, my older brother, or my mom. my mom gets constantly angry because of this. and my younger 2 siblings just get in the way. i cannot wait to get out of the house and leave forever. of all the kids in this family i am the least favroite, and the first one on the receving end oof every conflict. any time any thing goes wrong it is my falut even if i had NOTHING to do with it. my dad thinks that he is "perfect" and that my siblings are "perfect" and mom is close to "perfect". but me, he treets me like im the scum of the earth. and i am sick of it. what can i do????!!!
2006-12-29 16:03:34 · update #1
oh, i forgot to say that he does NO house work at ALL. he just yells at us to doit. I COOK, I CLEAN, I DO LAUNDRY, my brother takes out the trash, and my mom irons clothes. ALL my dad does is sit at his computer, that he loves more than he loves his family!!
2006-12-29 16:06:04 · update #2
Something is wrong and it is not you. It seems that way b/c you are confronting him while he is in denial. You can't help him, he can only help his self. Sucks for you I know but that's the way it goes. You will have your chance to fly, everyone has to pay their dues first. Hang in there, it only gets harder!
2006-12-29 16:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by jessica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds alot like how I grew up. First of all, your dad is just plain frustrated with his life. He had dreams just like you do, and now he's sees how far he came from realizing them. My dad yelled constantly, and unfortunately, I yell alot as a parent. I am frustrated and the yelling helps. Your Mom shouldn't tell you she is angry with him. It is not your job to make her feel better. If you can, try to see his pain. This will help you deal with your own. If he is ever nice, give him a hug and tell him he is a good Dad. No matter how old we get, we still feel like young kids inside. The house being small doesn't help either. I live in a small home too and it just adds to the chaos. Oh well, we make the best of it the best we know how at the time. Finally, as far as your driving..........your dad just wants you to be safe, because he loves you and is not ready to let you go yet. Believe me, as angry and disappointed as you are with him, he is even MORE disappointed and angry with himself.
2006-12-29 16:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by chatter 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your dad sounds stressed. You sound stressed. It is not only your dad... almost everyone is convinced that they are always right, maybe you too? It is a human trait. Letting others be right is a learned trait that carries you far in life. Maybe your dad hasn't learned that yet. Also, your dad may feel like a failure because you are angry and everyone is fighting and he doesn't bring in enought money. Either way.. the only thing you can change is you. Move out with friends... or find a way to cope for a few more years... try mediaiton
2006-12-29 16:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is what parents are for! While it may seem that he is trying to hold you back, he is just trying to do his job which is care for you. He may have an odd way of showing it but grin and bear it. Maybe, if you show you are responsible enough he will reconsider letting you drive and getting a job, but my feeling is that he just wants you to get a good education and be a kid while you still can. Hope this helps.
2006-12-29 16:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by reptmd 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
your dad sounds stressed out to me. give him a break he has you kids to worry about...feeding and making sure you are financially taken care of. Help him out with the house, so that he wont feel so cranky. Its the least you can do for him. As for your driving, easy come, easy go. If you wait long enough for it, you'll appreciate it more. Use this time to practice.
2006-12-29 16:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well first of all, dose he drink, maby hes depressed bout the job he has but dosent have the guts to find something new and he dosent want to start over. Sounds like he might have alot on his own mind and like most men refuses to deal with with others, and takes it out on others instead. I had problems with my dad, and been living on my own since i was 16 years old, now that i am older and on my own and have my own rules, he dosent say anything.
2006-12-29 16:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your dad has a difficult job taking care of his family,
I am sure he does the best he can,I am also
sure he is under a lot of stress.
Try to listen,it works wonders
2006-12-30 01:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋