And He's Mad At Me?

Question

The husband was actually upset because I was happy tonight when the execution of saddam happened tonight! He said I over reacted when I danced an shouted about the living room. I am upset with him because he wasn't as happy about this! Now we have a big arguement to go through over the New Years weekend. What should I do? Say I am sorry for something I am happy over? I feel justice was served! Should I just say I am sorry?

Answer 1

well you can eighter hold your ground or give in! and face your fight an arguments all weekend. i feel the same way you do , justice was served but it isn't worth the argument with the hubby is it?

Answer 2

Your behavior is the behavior in question. To find pleasure in the execution of anyone is less than admirable. of course he deserved the consequences appropriate to his actions, but there should be no joyful exuberance in anyone's death. Satisfaction seems a more reasonable emotion.

I think with time you might see your actions in a different light, but for now, it's the way you feel and there's not much you can do about it. Why don't you just say that you understand your husband's view? What you want is to get back to healthy positive relations with your husband and Saddam shouldn't be a wedge between the two of you.

Make it a happy new year and be well.

Answer 3

You might try telling him you are sorry you offended him. You don't have to argue about it. You should try to enjoy your new years weekend. Don't argue over something that really has little to do with the 2 of you.

I happen to agree with you about Saddam but I can see how maybe your husband feels like all the jubilation is a bit ghoulish. Part of growing as a couple is being able to appreciate each other's differences. You wouldn't want to be carbon copies of each other, after all.

So - say something like - "sweetie, this is something I feel strongly about but I didn't mean to offend you and if I did, I'm sorry. Now let's just move on. What are we doing New Year's? Something romantic, I hope!"

Answer 4

It appears that he's much more mature than you are. That was a very childish response. If my spouse responded like that, I’d be upset with them too. And by the way, it would not be because I didn’t think Saddam deserved the sentence and punishment that he received. But dancing and shouting in joy at the death of another human (no matter much they deserved to die) is childish and inappropriate.

Answer 5

Prolly he's mad cuz he can see the damage that this is going to cause to America's already tarnished image. Trying a man in a jumped up military kangaroo court and then killing him a mere six weeks later without regard to appeals or due process isn't exactly the greatest thing. It's especially not great coming from the nation that prides itself on its judicial system. If we'd been smart we would have sent him to The Hague for an international trial. We couldn't do that tho' cuz it would have dredged up too much crap about George H.W. Bush, Cheney and a bunch of other people.

Answer 6

And where was justice served? Saddam had as much to do with 911 as Bill Clinton did. I guess some people don't pay attention to the news much.

Answer 7

I think each of you are entitled to your beliefs. If he is NOT happy, that is as valid as you being happy about it.

I have a suggestion, instead of arguing about why you are right and he is wrong, try to understand why he is NOT happy about it.

This is a great chance to learn something about your husband. This isn't a right or wrong issue. He may feel strongly against the death penalty, regardless how evil Sadaam was.

Nothing wrong with that.

Nothing wrong with you rejoicing over an evil man facing the consequences either.

I think you should say you love your husband and want to understand how he feels about this issue, and don't try to talk him out of how he feels, just understand.

Answer 8

I cannot believe that something like this is affecting your lives so personally. I think if you want to be happy, you have a right to be. A little weird for you to dance and sing if you ask me, but whatever floats your boat. However, your happiness does not constitute an obligation on his part to share your feelings. I think if you guys let something like this ruin your holiday, you have bigger problems. I say both of you let it go and respect each others feelings on the subject.

Answer 9

Dancing around is a little over the top but you should never apologize for something that elates you. Instead, apologize for offending him and explain to him that was not your intention. Then tell him making up is always much more fun!! Happy new year

Answer 10

You should never dance around and yell for joy at the death of a human being. True he did horrible things, and maybe he deserved it, but to dance and yell is out of place. Are you happy because the media and your leader said that you need to be happy? I would be angry also if I saw my wife doing that. We invaded Iraq illegally, arrested the leader of that country, then executed him. Do you really think that the world approves of us doing this, and do you think that the Iraq people who support him approve of us doing this? Don't dance when someone dies, for someday someone may dance when you die.

Answer 11

Just say that your sorry Saddam has come and gone you know that you got your enjoyment out of it already so just let it go and apologize you'll fell even better and enjoy & have a wonderful New Years.